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OT: About 'Brangelina': Warning: NC-17 thread (I think)
JennyC:
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on June 02, 2006, 07:32:19 pm ---Ed is right! At my second childbirth, I started screaming (yes: screaming, not asking) for epidural the moment I reached the hospital. I swear, I literally screamed to the doorman (!) for an epidural before I told my name. This was the only childbirth I had an epidural.
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Penthesilea,
So you did not have Epidural for your first born. Wow, you are a brave woman :). Most the women I know may not have Epidural for their 2nd or 3rd child because they have already advanced pass the window to use Epidural.
I know all the women who gave birth before there was even Epidural are going to roll their eyes, but I just can not imagine not having that.
Ellemeno:
Not from my own direct body experience, but as a doula I have been at births where the women loved giving birth with no drugs - I just want to acknowledge that. Most births I've been to, there were drugs, but a few (not many) were truly ecstatic no-drug births.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: Ellemeno on June 02, 2006, 07:46:07 pm ---Not from my own direct body experience, but as a doula I have been at births where the women loved giving birth with no drugs - I just want to acknowledge that. Most births I've been to, there were drugs, but a few (not many) were truly ecstatic no-drug births.
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As with everything where parenting (and anything else of importance) is concerned, you just gotta do what feels right for you.
I had three different close friends try to talk me into going drugless beforehand. One was a NICU nurse, one was a doula, and one was someone who'd had two drug-free births that were good experiences. The first two had had both their kids sans drugs themselves, so they did practice what they preached.
But I knew myself and my extremely low pain threshold. And I knew my husband and his squeamishness. I wanted him to be there only because I feared he'd regret it if he wasn't - all the Dads do it these days, dontcha know. For myself, I could have done it alone no problem. To this day I'm very thankful I had one done. I honestly don't believe I could have pushed properly through that pain. I was dry-heaving (and I'm not someone who gets nauseous easily normally) into a bucket, it was so intense. Took me totally by surprise. Others had told me how this, that and the other might, uh, give way during it all, but that never happened. I just thought I was gonna barf. It worked perfectly - I could feel and move my lower abdomen and legs - it just took the edge off the pain but I could still feel the pressure. That was all I needed. I think I would have been hysterical if it had continued on like it had been before. And that would have been bad for Will, bad for Ed and bad for me.
But I know women who swear by doing it drugless. Power to them. I don't feel like less of a woman for my choice (and I know you're not in any way implying that, Clarissa - I've just known women who've wondered if they should have tried it without), and I don't regret it one bit.
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: ednbarby on June 02, 2006, 08:57:12 pm ---I don't feel like less of a woman for my choice (and I know you're not in any way implying that, Clarissa - I've just known women who've wondered if they should have tried it without), and I don't regret it one bit.
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Good for you barb. Most of the mothers I know were and are still grateful for medical science and epidurals. Going through the transcendent experience of excruciating, nauseating pain was something they were very happy to do without so they could focus on the birth and their baby.
To each their own.
henrypie:
On epidurals, and other pain-minimizing technologies: Bring it on!!!! I think epidurals are a gift, same with antibiotics, safe anaesthesia, sterilization and lots of other medical evolutions that have allowed us to die a little older and a little less scarred.
My husband refuses novocaine in the dentist's chair. This is really, really weird to me -- yuck, it certainly upholds the stereotype of "ze German who does not vhine!" (He's German.) (Swabian in fact. The land of No Complaining.) I think that's absolutely, positively nuts. Now, upon pressing him, I discovered that he had a bad reaction to a novocaine shot in his teens -- half his face swelled grotesquely -- quite scary. This gets me a little closer to understanding.
So, in addition to "Bring it on!" I second the notion of "To each his/her own."
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