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Alma? It ain't her fault. - Whose fault is it?
tiawahcowboy:
Apparently, I don't communicate in the same regional American English as those who think that I am being condescending.
I guess that I am just too outspoken for those who don't live in the central part of the USA, which historically speaking is the OLD West, too, and they never grew up around people llike I have.
Phillip Dampier:
--- Quote from: tiawahcowboy on June 01, 2006, 09:47:15 pm ---Apparently, I don't communicate in the same regional American English as those who think that I am being condescending.
I guess that I am just too outspoken for those who don't live in the central part of the USA, which historically speaking is the OLD West, too, and they never grew up around people llike I have.
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It's not about the dictionary. It's about attitude. The reply I was sort of hoping for was along the lines of "I understand your friendly reminder and I want others to know I do value their views and I'm sorry if my writing style comes across as being unfriendly - I'm really not." Instead we got the equivalent of "I can't help it if people don't read my messages and understand them and that I am outspoken and opinionated and that's the way it is."
We have nearly 400 people on here from all over the world. The vast overwhelming majority of folks on here get along with one another, and there are lots of outspoken folks here too, but spirited discussions can be had without it coming down to taking shots at one another. You've seen that doesn't work on the other forums you've been on, and it hasn't worked well here either, so I encourage you to try a different approach. It would be great to see your messages taken more positively by others here because it would be more enjoyable around here for you and everyone else. I said that to you several weeks ago as well.
I share this guidance with you as a friend and as your host. Take my advice in that spirit and thanks for reading.
Jeff Wrangler:
Thank you, Philip, and thank you, Katherine, for your contributions as host and moderator.
I would add, too, that I would hope that no one here would take disagreement as personal attack, nor would anyone respond to a disagreement of opinion with hostility or a personal attack. There is a difference between being outspoken or plainspoken and being hostile.
slayers_creek_oth:
--- Quote from: Jeff Wrangler on June 01, 2006, 10:10:19 pm ---Thank you, Philip, and thank you, Katherine, for your contributions as host and moderator.
I would add, too, that I would hope that no one here would take disagreement as personal attack, nor would anyone respond to a disagreement of opinion with hostility or a personal attack. There is a difference between being outspoken or plainspoken and being hostile.
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I agree! Nicely put Jeff...
Phillip Dampier:
--- Quote from: Jeff Wrangler on June 01, 2006, 10:10:19 pm ---I would add, too, that I would hope that no one here would take disagreement as personal attack, nor would anyone respond to a disagreement of opinion with hostility or a personal attack. There is a difference between being outspoken or plainspoken and being hostile.
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I absolutely agree. Difference of opinion is not hostility. If I said Jack Twist was obviously a secret member of the Hitler Youth and he joined to hide his homosexuality, that wouldn't be hostility or a personal attack - it would just be wrong... real wrong. :) But you can still say it on here. You should expect to hear others say, "Phil, that is wrong" and that is not a personal attack. If you wrote, "Phil, I have already called 911 to have them come take you away to get you back on your mind pills and get your head shocked because you are CRAZY," that probably would be.
If you debate an opinion, that's fine. If you want to debate the person giving the opinion, I'd normally say take it to a PM. I felt it appropriate to bring this up publicly since this thread got a bit too heated earlier and I felt the points being made were important, but that it might be better for me to try and make them to try and establish a dialogue and, fingers crossed, get a resolution.
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