When Ive been to a funeral, I often feel that protocol and tradition take over what it is really all about. Like when everyone goes into the church, and then the principal mourners are walked up the aisle like they are on display as all eyes are upon them.
And then to have a member of the clergy, who nine times out of ten does not even know the person who has died, just makes it very impersonal.
I do like the idea of playing music that relates to the person, I think that brings their presence more to the occassion, and thoughts of good times often bring a smile, or some tears, but they are usually good feeling tears.
And I dont think people should dress up in clothes that the dead person, would probably not recognise them in anyway. I like the way, the young ones wear jeans and black is not necessarily the colour of the day.