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What Would Your Response Be??
ZK:
--- Quote from: injest on October 08, 2008, 11:35:17 pm ---come to Texas....we got a LOT more friendly women here!
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Okay its a date. Ya know I really want to go to a Diner, like what I see in the movies, so I have a date with a buddy in NYC at one, so might as well try Southern hospitality too.
injest:
--- Quote from: ZK on October 08, 2008, 11:46:05 pm ---Okay its a date. Ya know I really want to go to a Diner, like what I see in the movies, so I have a date with a buddy in NYC at one, so might as well try Southern hospitality too.
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man, I hope my husband dont find out about this!! :o :o
injest:
From Dear Amy:
I want some advice on how to help my son and daughter-in-law without hurting their feelings.
When we visit, the dog smell and dog hair in their home bother us.
The dishwasher is broken and the carpets are not clean because of their dogs.
Should we get someone to come in and clean before we visit or buy them a dishwasher?
Should we hire someone to help get my daughter-in-law organized and my son motivated -- or does that take the responsibility away from them?
We don't live in the same state.
Their children are 1 and 4.
What would be YOUR response??
injest:
--- Quote from: injest on May 03, 2009, 09:30:32 am ---From Dear Amy:
I want some advice on how to help my son and daughter-in-law without hurting their feelings.
When we visit, the dog smell and dog hair in their home bother us.
The dishwasher is broken and the carpets are not clean because of their dogs.
Should we get someone to come in and clean before we visit or buy them a dishwasher?
Should we hire someone to help get my daughter-in-law organized and my son motivated -- or does that take the responsibility away from them?
We don't live in the same state.
Their children are 1 and 4.
What would be YOUR response??
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I'd tell them to get a motel next time and keep their opinion to themselves! ;D
optom3:
--- Quote from: Katie77 on September 22, 2008, 08:51:23 am ---There are hugs and there are hugs.... In a restaurant from a waitress, if they are done spontaneously and without fan fare, and are not overly smoochy, and are short and sweet, I cannot see a problem with it.
I used to work in a Credit Union, as a loans officer, and had a wonderful clientelle of people who I looked after for years. We became friends became very close over the years. There were several, men and women, who often came in the office, and greeted me with a hug or even a kiss on the cheek. It was spontaneous, and affectionate, and did not embarrass anyone, or looked at as anything but a freindly gesture.
As long as there is not other agenda, other than professional freindliness, then there is nothing wrong with it.
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I agree with you. Back when I was an Optometrist in England, I would build up close relationships with some of my long term patients. I often used to get hugs when, after years of poor or nearly non existant vision, they could suddenly see. Some of the hugs were emotional and tear filled.Particularly if I had spent hours with them, working through how to use low vision aids. Most optometrists could not be bothered as it is very time consuming and you still only charge the same flat fee.
Personally I loved it, the look of undiluted joy when a pensioner could finally read a book again, albeit maybe one word at a time, was something no money could buy. I would get, hugs, home baked cakes and cookies, bottles of wine and even in one instance a poem dedicated to me.
Equally I would get hugs from young men, when after many false starts they finally mastered inserting contact lenses, and could go full tilt back into tackle sports. I very rarely felt any of the hugs were sexual, just grateful and well meaning patients. I would get hugs too, from patients whose wife or husband I had helped in their last months. The simple joy of giving someone the gift of enough vision to read a book or watch T.V is an amazing thing. Particularly if they were bed bound. Even their partners would often hug me and cry, saying how much joy I had brought into their last few months.
I really cared about these patients and the fact that they were lost leaders did not matter. I made more than enough money from standard cases. I see as I write this that I miss being an Optometrist. Not the money, I am a softy and I miss the human contact and the gift of giving someone a small amount of vision back, when others had given up on them.
I was a really good Optometrist, not because technically I was any better than others, but because I cared so very much. In fact I built up a fabulous relationship with an ophthalmologist, who would send all his post surgery patients to me.He did some laser work on my father's retina and when he discovered I was his daughter, he told him that he sent all his patients on to me, BLUSH.My dad was so proud of me, he was straight on the phone when he got home. If we stay here, I need to get back into a people orientated job. If I only could afford it, I would be down in Miami, doing my conversion course, to enable me to practice here.
I am in my element when I make people feel good. There is no doubt about it, my own happiness and sense of well being, stems from reaching out and helping others. I am no saint, it just makes me feel so good. I need to feel needed and useful. Even at the store, I would take real care to pack customers groceries into separate bags, produce, frozen, fridge, store cupboard, to make unpacking the other end easier.
I suspect it all stems from a very deep rooted inferiority and insecurity complex. I cannot derive any joy from within myself, it has to come from others.
So anyway, back to the response, hugs are fine by me, as long as both parties feel comfortable.
It is sad I suppose that I have to get my sense of well being from others and it is not something I can manufacture myself.
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