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"Fixer" or "Stander"
Brown Eyes:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on June 05, 2006, 11:18:11 pm ---There are always options. Ennis was his own jailer. HE kept himself chained. Jack kept trying to tell him he had more than one option, but he didn't buy it.
Ennis had options. He just didn't believe he did.
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Yes I know. Still, for this poll I want to play by Ennis's rules.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: atz75 on June 05, 2006, 11:46:46 pm ---Yes I know. Still, for this poll I want to play by Ennis's rules.
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I'll play by those rules. :)
I think that my being a fixer falls in line with the way I make decisions. I *cannot* stand to be in the middle of making a decision of any significance, whether it be to take on a new project, change jobs, move, have a child, buy a car... I feel much better once the decision is made than when I'm in the process of it. Which is not to say I make decisions impulsively. But I weigh my options and the possible pros and cons of each, pick one, and run with it. The downside of this is a little inflexibility, I guess. Once I've made that decision, I *really* don't want to change it. But I'm willing to if further data becomes available that makes the other choice the better one.
I think of people who have difficulty making decisions as "having a decision-making disorder." Comes from some movie - I can't remember which. Close friends who are like that drive me nuts. Invariably, they ask me what I'd do. I think about it a minute, tell 'em, and they go, "Yeah, but what if..." Oh, good GOD. JUST MAKE A DECISION!!!
No offense to anyone here who finds themselves in that category. Some of my best friends have a decision-making disorder. ;)
slayers_creek_oth:
Thats a good question! I'm definetly a fixer!
Ellemeno:
--- Quote from: ednbarby on June 06, 2006, 05:21:26 pm ---I think about it a minute, tell 'em, and they go, "Yeah, but what if..."
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This is me. I'll resist the title "Decision Making Disorder" and accept "Decision Making Delay." Gotta be prepared for that maybe potentiality. I have been decluttering my house lately, and have recently faced how many things I've previously had trouble letting go of were for "just in case" eventualities. "What if we have a house full of people and the heat goes off? I must keep many unused blankets." (And we live in a relatively mild climate.) (And how often do I have a house full of people staying with us? Rarely.)
I also feel much better after having made the decision, but knowing that doesn't mecessarily speed up the process. I FINALLY bought the new lawn mower I've been researching, researching, yesterday. I haven't even used it yet (it's charging, 'cause it's cordless), but I already feel better.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: Ellemeno on June 07, 2006, 02:23:31 pm ---This is me. I'll resist the title "Decision Making Disorder" and accept "Decision Making Delay." Gotta be prepared for that maybe potentiality. I have been decluttering my house lately, and have recently faced how many things I've previously had trouble letting go of were for "just in case" eventualities. "What if we have a house full of people and the heat goes off? I must keep many unused blankets." (And we live in a relatively mild climate.) (And how often do I have a house full of people staying with us? Rarely.)
I also feel much better after having made the decision, but knowing that doesn't mecessarily speed up the process. I FINALLY bought the new lawn mower I've been researching, researching, yesterday. I haven't even used it yet (it's charging, 'cause it's cordless), but I already feel better.
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Now, see, I wouldn't classify you as having a Decision-Making Disorder from this description. Putting in the proper research before making a major purchase or making a life change is one thing. But I have a couple of friends who belabor *every* single decision, finally make one, and then once they see it through (e.g., use that lawn mower for the first time, drive the new car home, move into the new place), they regret it. Never fails. GAH!!!
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