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Ashamed of being straight?
MaineWriter:
--- Quote from: DavidinHartford on June 18, 2006, 07:49:54 am ---
I am not afraid to say or think a passing girl is pretty. That doesn't mean I want to have sex with her. Then again, maybe I could? Just because you see a guy as handsome doesn't mean you want to jump him either. Then again, maybe someday you will. That is the trouble with life. There is no hand book or owners manual!
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So true, David. Your comment made me think of this line from a certain fanfic I am addicted to (not my own). The speaker is saying it to Ennis:
"All you knew was ranchin an goin through ta ninth grade, no one ever sent you the Handbook a Queer Survival ta study before ya went up sheepherdin.”
Leslie
chefjudy:
???
--- Quote ---Like Jake Gyllenhaal said, I'm not sexually attracted to women but don't think I'll be afraid if it happens someday.
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I think this line was taken out of context - I believe the quote was about Jake being turned on by men, not women since he already has more women than he could possibly handle......................
delalluvia:
What everyone said, pretty much.
Is it possible when your friend was speaking to you about your comment possibly implying you being 'bi' she might have been trying to warn you that your comments did not fit into society's 'molds'? Or that possibly SHE thinks you're bi and are just trying to hide it and if you are, you need to watch comments like that?
An ex-boyfriend of mine was called into a counselors office at his school once because at his age, every other guy had pics of half-naked women and sports stars decorating their dorm rooms, he had a cat calendar and he fumed that he didn't know what the big deal was - he liked cats!
Again, it's difficult projecting one image but being another, but there isn't much you can do about it if you want to remain true to yourself. I'd say be yourself and worry less about what others think.
Front-Ranger:
Most people are bi to some extent, some more than others. The bigger question is, are we going to let other people's judgements rule how we think of ourselves? That's what Ennis did. Jack didn't let other people influence how he saw himself, even when they were as cruel as Aguirre. I am not ashamed of being straight, but I don't let being straight rule me. There are so many beautiful and appealing women in the world too and it would be a shame to leave them out of my fantasies! But I know it's easier for women than men. In my circles, lesbian women are often looked up to and admired. It's not been an easy time for straight men these days. Payback time.
silkncense:
I have a little bit different take on this topic - or maybe I'm going totally off topic.
I'd never thought anyone would consider me gay cause I am not. I think people may be wondering now because of my obsession w/ Brokeback Mtn & my recent trip to SF to meet everyone. That matters not at all to me.
But, being straight in a mindset that is not typical of your sex is a different thing. When I was a very little girl, I wanted to be a cowBOY (got pictures to prove it). If I was dressed in a dress, I put pants on under it. I have ALWAYS wanted to be with the boys playing - not the girls. I thought girls were boring & boys got to do all the great, exciting things in life like tramping through the woods & catching snakes (which scare me now. I did love playing w/ dolls tho') In band, I played trumpet (1st chair).
My career choice was a decidedly male occupation, one that women were just breaking into & carried a lot of controversy with it. Consequently I was primarily around men and loved it - felt perfectly at home & comfortable with them. (I had been a typist/secretary for a short period of time & simply did not/could not bond with any of the women. In fact I have not bonded with women in general).
I LOVE men. I'd still rather be with men at any given time. I love everything about them. Their faces, their bodies, their way of bonding, the way I never feel there is some underlying fakeness to them. The latter implies I think women are fake. This is my problem. I remember always thinking that women were not being true to themselves when they spoke - probably because my opinions, interests, etc were so different. Now I think it is simply me.
I love sports, I hate talking about babies. I wanted to play the drums. I never wear a dress unless it is formal (and then I love dressing up!) I love make-up & loved (awhile back) being slim, sexy & attracting men.
I have never felt I was "in the wrong body." I am completely comfortable as a female. I have been physically attracted to the beauty of some women but never sexually attracted to a woman. And very, very rarely emotionally.
SO, where the hell do I fit? Like you said David, so many shades...
EDIT - Should have said, I love WATCHING sports - must be because I get to look at men! Actually, I enjoy the sport but do watch only men playing... HMMMMMMM.
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