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serious crayons:
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on November 19, 2008, 04:27:07 pm ---Nobody but the two who are marrying should set the rules IMO.
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It's nobody's business but theirs. ;D
Penthesilea:
--- Quote from: serious crayons on November 19, 2008, 04:45:47 pm ---It's nobody's business but theirs. ;D
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Exactly! :)
Why do I even bother? Annie Proulx already said it much shorter and better :laugh:
Still amazing how many succinct expressions there are in such a short piece of prose.
Jeff Wrangler:
--- Quote from: Scott on November 19, 2008, 04:40:47 pm ---Well...now that could be fun Jeff...think about it.
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What Chuck said about it. ... Tossing the garter, I mean.
Makes me want to toss my lunch. ... 8)
Jeff Wrangler:
--- Quote from: CellarDweller on November 19, 2008, 03:31:26 pm ---
Oh, I'd like to read that post.
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My ceremony would be very simple. I don't hold with the need for a church liturgy for it. I would invite my pastor, and I would invite him to pray for me and my partner, but I would not ask him to "marry" us. I'll stick with the early Puritans, who held that nowhere in the New Testament does it say that marrying people is part of a minister's job.
There would be a table, with flowers, and two lighted candles, with one unlighted candle in a holder taller than the holders for the other two candles. Perhaps the ticky-tackiest part of the whole thing is that I would like there to be music, a processional, my favorite recording of an organ-and-trumpet rendition of The Prince of Denmark March, aka the Trumpet Voluntary, by Jeremiah Clarke (English baroque period).
Accompanied by our attendants, my partner and I would approach the table down an aisle made up of our friends while the music plays. We would take each other by the right hand and make our vows to each other. We would exchange rings, probably as part of the vow exchange. Then we would each take one of the lighted candles and together light the single, taller candle. This would be the point at which I would ask my pastor to pray for us. And that would essentially be it.
Afterward there would be cake and champagne. There would also be a large certificate, done in calligraphy and made up in advance, and everyone present would be invited to sign it.
My pattern for this is how marriages were done in very early colonial Pennsylvania. This was the way the Quakers did it; the couple stood up together in meeting and vowed to take each other as husband and wife, and everyone present was invited to sign a certificate. I've never been to a Quaker wedding, so for all I know the Quakers may still do it this way.
serious crayons:
Cool plans, Jeff! So appropriate for a history lover.
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