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BBM is 3 Years Old This Month. How Are You Doing, Friends?
MountainMan:
fyi, hbo is showing bbm right now - the day after Jake's bday......hmmm
optom3:
I have not been here for 3 years,but the time I have, has been the most rewarding in my life(family aside)
It all seemed predetermined to me. I had just discovered that we could not renew our Visa for some time ,so we are landlocked. That of course means I cannot see my family.Heath passed my oldest became full blown Bipolar, my husband was robbed at gunpoint,the business is just hanging on by a thread.
I look back at my posts in wonder and amazement that I am still here.
I have gained so much from Bettermost, it is hard to articulate it all. Obviously, there is my new bestest friend Mandy. Then there is this vast school of, wisdom, and care, all unconditional.
You need to know something, a Brokie somewhere will have the answer, a shoulder to cry on, ditto,you can't face another day, oh yes you can, because people here REALLY care and will lift you up. My husband thought I had lost the plot, when he initially heard me talking about Bettermost.He no longer thinks that, he sees that on many an occasion, I find just what I need right here.Peace, solace, laughter and love.
I think of it as the most wonderful extended family, (minus the batty old aunt you can't stand) coupled with the wisdom of an Oxford don and the infinite love a mother for her children.
I maybe have not come a long way, in terms of development.I have however survived more than I would have dreamt plausible, courtesy of BBM, and Bettermost !!!
Front-Ranger:
--- Quote from: MountainMan on December 20, 2008, 06:05:36 am ---fyi, hbo is showing bbm right now - the day after Jake's bday......hmmm
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Really? BBM on HBO? Is this for the first time??!
MountainMan:
--- Quote from: Front-Ranger on December 20, 2008, 07:37:54 pm ---Really? BBM on HBO? Is this for the first time??!
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no its been on before I think.....google it. I just was up and it was on....and evidently it was the day after JG's bday. I guess it says a lot that its never on except for once in a blue moon at 4 am....
YaadPyar:
Thanks for pointing me to this thread, Meryl. I watched BBM again on Christmas Eve, exactly 3 years to the day from my first, life-changing viewing. And I laughed through so much of it, 'cause every line, every scene reminded me of some cartoon or quip or scene that we had made into our own. The thread on IMdB (can't remember the name) that made everything so funny!
And I was amazed too that the movie was so impeccable upon viewing so much later. Every word, every shot, every minute tight and meaningful, exposing each character more deeply and forwarding the story powerfully and effortlessly.
In the scene where Ennis is running off to another fishing trip with Jack, and Alma's sitting smoking at the kitchen table, wrestling with her feelings...the look in her eyes after he runs out the door having almost forgotten his creel case, is so powerful, so telling, such a quiet and pviotal moment.
BBM changed my life, but I could also say I saw it at a moment where I wanted my life to change. There was change in the air, looming on the horizon, and BBM pointed the way for me to see that the change required was in the silent internal spaces in my soul.
I'm not Ennis, and I'm definitely not Jack, but I could see my own limitations in each, and knew I did not want to stay stuck by those limitations, that I didn't want to end up either figuratively dead or stuck in a dead-end place. BBM helped me see how much I wanted to embrace life on my own terms.
And the re-viewing recently was a complete affirmation of all of that. I am not the same, I am not living the same life, and I know BBM showed me the cracks in the foundation of a life I had built but couldn't sustain.
I knew something had fundamentally shifted inside of me, and over the past 3 years, I have embraced that original pull to change and given it room to grow inside of me. It's still in process, no doubt, but now I can watch the movie, and appreciate the story and it's powerful sorrow without feeling that I'm condemned to living my life the same way.
Thanks so much to each one for the wonderful friendship that I found here. Certainly some craziness and some drama, but mostly wonderful friendship!
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