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BBM-Cat:
Thank you David for the warm welcome. This is a great forum for support and interesting discussions, which I hope to participate in - I've enjoyed reading so many thoughtful insights and have learned much in my short BBM career.
ednbarby:
Welcome, BBM-Cat. I can't tell you how much I understand your wanting your husband to be moved by it like you do. I saw it for the first time last January. And waited until April, when it was released on DVD, for mine to finally see it. He didn't have reservations for any particular reason other than that he is not quite as much of a movie buff as I am and he was perhaps put off by just how overwhelmed I was by it (and continue to be).
Your suggestion that your husband watch it alone is a good one. My husband watched it with me. But it was so important to me that he watch it in an undistracted state that I remained completely silent through the whole thing - I literally had to bite my tongue a couple of times to keep myself from making a comment or asking him what he thought of this or that. I just sat there like a statue. And he wept openly when Ennis found the shirts. I've never seen him do that in 18 years of knowing him - not even when his mother or beloved dogs died. The tears just streamed silently down his face. I was relieved beyond description. After three months of loving the film so deeply, I seriously thought it would be the end of our marriage if he didn't at least begin to understand it.
As sfericsf (Eric) and others here have said more eloquently than I, you take from this movie what you bring to it. It took me 15 viewings to finally have my own psychological breakthrough - I kept feeling compelled to watch it again and again, I'm convinced, because it was trying to tell me something. It indeed was, and it did.
Enjoy the ride. It will be a long and wonderful one.
BBM-Cat:
Hi ednbarby - thank you for the welcome! I’ve read many of your thoughtful posts. Sounds like watching BBM was a positive experience for your husband as well as for you. There is something so powerfully cathartic about this movie. I’m glad you can now both share in the wonderful gift together. You got to experience your husband’s raw reaction, which I hope to experience when we both watch it together. That was such a beautiful description.
Overall, I don’t think my husband has any particular reservations other than expecting the movie to be ‘stereotypical’. I can’t wait until he discovers it is far from that! I loved your description of watching the movie together – I feel I would do the same! I’d have to restrain myself from commenting or asking for his interpretation. You can bet I’ll direct him to this support forum if he’s interested, after seeing it.
That’s interesting “you take from this movie what you bring to it” – I’m wondering if I’m so captivated by the movie because of what I don’t bring to it, or what needs attention in my life. Speaking of what needs attention right now – I’ve got to finish my work for tomorrow or I run the risk of getting even more sidetracked than I have been over the past several days. Hard to push it from my mind but I must for now. Nice talking with you.
mvansand76:
--- Quote from: BBM-Cat2006 on December 14, 2006, 12:40:57 am ---Hi ednbarby - thank you for the welcome! I’ve read many of your thoughtful posts. Sounds like watching BBM was a positive experience for your husband as well as for you. There is something so powerfully cathartic about this movie. I’m glad you can now both share in the wonderful gift together. You got to experience your husband’s raw reaction, which I hope to experience when we both watch it together. That was such a beautiful description.
Overall, I don’t think my husband has any particular reservations other than expecting the movie to be ‘stereotypical’. I can’t wait until he discovers it is far from that! I loved your description of watching the movie together – I feel I would do the same! I’d have to restrain myself from commenting or asking for his interpretation. You can bet I’ll direct him to this support forum if he’s interested, after seeing it.
That’s interesting “you take from this movie what you bring to it” – I’m wondering if I’m so captivated by the movie because of what I don’t bring to it, or what needs attention in my life. Speaking of what needs attention right now – I’ve got to finish my work for tomorrow or I run the risk of getting even more sidetracked than I have been over the past several days. Hard to push it from my mind but I must for now. Nice talking with you.
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Welcome BBM-Cat! It's so beautiful to see that more and more people are being captivated by the beauty of BBM... I have tears in my eyes just reading your post. I hope you will be able to share your experience with your husband and that he responds in the same way to it! Welcome to Bettermost!
saucycobblers:
Hi BBM-Cat! Just wanted to add my welcome to the others that have been posted, and to say you've joined a warm and loving family here. What I love about this forum is the diversity of people who contribute to it, but what we all have in common is an open heart to all that this wonderful film has to share with us. I've made some close and very dear friends here and it's gone some way to restoring my faith in the essential goodness of people. Again, WELCOME!! :D
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