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optom3:
Sue , I am so pleased you have let everyone know. Please let Bob see my mails so he knows how many people are all rooting for him. I am so delighted he is pain free and eating as it puts him i a much better place to fight this as you say insidious diesease. It was why I was so adamant that he had to be made pain free.
I have seen so many people survive way past their original prognosis, so I for one would say just continue to be strong and enjoy each other.
I too think he is lucky to have such a strong woman in his corner. Crying is also good it acts as a pressure relief valve, which is cleansing and also means negative feelings are not self contained where they can erode away positive thoughts. Seems to me you and your family are doing everything right. I told you before I think, get him sat in front of Billy Connolly on you tube, the incontinence pads sketch and suicide bombers are just 2 that spring to mind. I laugh till I cry when I watch them and it releases so many endorphins that can only be a good thing.
Be there for him in the middle of the night if he wakes scared and quite simply, just keep on being you. :)

louisev:
Bless you for your endurance, Katie, and please let your husband know that many, many of us have been there with our own illnesses and ailments. I was in constant intractable pain for 5 years, and very nearly went insane from it, so you are very fortunate to have such a good national health there!  I am glad they got his pain controlled so that his quality of life will be as good as possible.  I will definitely send my prayers to you and to him both, and I second Fiona's comments on disregarding the prognosis.

Anthony Burgess, author of "A Clockwork Orange" and the screenwriter for "Jesus of Nazareth" among hundreds of books and several musical compositions,  was diagnosed with incurable and inoperable cancer in 1959.  He decided in the year his doctor gave him to live that he had some stories to write before he passed on.  At the time, he was a civil servant in Malaysia.  He wrote four novels that year - and did not die.  He finally gave up the ghost in 1996 at last, after writing more than 50 novels and screenplays, and became one of the main inspirations for my own career as a novelist.  It is good to be practical and to accept things as they are, but with the understanding that doctors cannot predict these things.

Kelda:
Sue.

I'm just so so sorry. I wish I had something profound to say, but I dont at the moment. All my love to you and Bob, and stay strong.

xxx

Kerry:

I was so saddened to read your post about Bob's cancer, Sue. I will remember you in my meditation each day from now on. He is surrounded by those who love him and that's so important at such a time as this. A positive outlook and sense of humour is also so important. I know he'll get lots of hugs and kisses from you and that, in my humble opinion, can often do so much more than any analgesia can. Having said that, however, I'm so glad to hear that the patch is working and there are no adverse outcomes from it. I travelled this path with my Mum and Dad, so my heart goes out to you, Bob and your family at this time.

LauraGigs:
Hi Sue,

I don't have much wisdom to add...  I'm tearful at the news, and also awestruck at your wisdom and strength.  It seems that you both have great perspective and are taking nothing for granted.  In terms of love and emotional support, Bob sure seems to have a fortune of that in great store.  I'm sending good thoughts and love to you all.

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