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Sason:
How absolutely horrible, Kelda.

I can't think of anything worse for a parent, than have to make a decision to let your child die, regardless of a lethal syndrome.  :'(

And what an awkward situation for you, trying to support her, whith your own growing belly.  :-\

ifyoucantfixit:

--- Quote from: Kelda on February 24, 2012, 07:36:32 am ---My good friend had a little boy at 35 weeks on Sunday. They knew he had a heart defect as this was picked up in the 20 week scan but they thought they would be able to operate.

All seemed fine and he was stable but in icu, but they’ve done some tests and the heart defect is accompanied with a severe syndrome and he won’t survive. They have to decide when to switch of the machines he’s currently on to let him die. Feel so bad for her. And slightly guilty knowing mine is so far healthy, which I know is stupid but still. Her little girl was so excited when I saw her last week – she was telling me that the baby was hiding in mummy’s tummy…. How do you explain that to a 2 year old?

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kelda:  I am so sorry for the devastation that the birth is bringing.  I am going to be thinking of your friend.  I am keep that family in my thoughts.
I hope that they are able to come to terms with it.  I do not know how you can approach the subject with a little child.  I think for those that have
faith in their life, that would be a great comfort for that child.  By telling them, that they have to go be with god, or Jesus, whatever the persuasion.  Children are very likely to understand, when told that they are needed that way.  It will still be hard, but not as devastating.  I hope they find a way to relay the terrible news to her.

As for your feelings of guilt.  I can somewhat understand that.  However you should try not to dwell on it too much.  Your main focus should be on your own baby.  I totally believe that the mindset of the mother, during pregnancy, is very influential on the unborn child.  Too much negativity is going to give them the bad mix of hormones, in the system.  Don't mean to say what you should do during your pregnancy, but just an opinion that I have.  Be joyful, and rejoice that your child is healthy and well.  Maybe then you can give them more support, coming from a good place.

   All my love to you, dear..
 



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Kelda:
Thanks Sason and Janice. xx

Sophia:
So sorry to hear about your friend, Kelda. All the hugs in the world to you both.

Kelda:
My friend's little boy passed away yesterday. They took him away from the beeping machines and into a private family room, where they read grufallo to him.

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