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Celebrating Six Months: How has your life changed...
ednbarby:
... over the time you've been a part of the Chez Tremblay/BetterMost community?
In my case, it would seem not very much in the last six months. I say it would seem because I still have the same job, live in the same house, am married to the same man, have the same small (but not so small anymore) child...
But what most people in the outside world don't know but most people here do is that I've made the following changes since March:
1.) I've vowed to never watch the Academy Awards again. Easiest habit-kicking I've ever done, easiest decision I've ever made. (And for those who don't know, I was an Oscars buff and aficionado for over 20 years - never missed the awards show, made sure to see all five Best Picture nominees, even tried to catch the nominations live every chance I could. Quoth the raven...)
2.) I call people on it whenever they make bigoted slurs of any kind, whether they're racist, ethnocentric, misogynistic or homophobic. Every single time. I don't care who you are or what the context is, I *will* call you on it. Yes, I've become a real pain in the neck where this is concerned. And I'm proud of that.
3.) I'm no longer ashamed to refer to myself as an atheist. I really think that's largely because of the kindred spirits and support I've found in that particular area here. When someone asks me now if I "go to church," I say, "No. That would be hypocritical of me, seeing as I'm an atheist." Nice thing about that is it shuts them up right away - at least about that subject, anyway. I haven't lost any friends over it yet, that I know of. And if I do, it's their loss. I don't question why they go to church - they shouldn't question why I don't.
4.) I give regularly to the Matthew Shepard Foundation and wear the purple wrist band that signifies my support of it. Should have started doing that long ago, but Brokeback Mountain was the clincher.
5.) I've made and met some wonderful friends - people I would have never had the honor and privilege to even know existed otherwise. Of all these things, that's what I'm most grateful for.
Kelda:
This is the start of me completing all those 'celebrating 6 months' posts.. thought this was the easiest one!
So, how has my life changed?
The obvious one is that I've made (and hope to meet at some point) some great friends.Like Barb, people I would have never had the honor and privilege to even know existed otherwise.
The second one is that I've fallen in love. And I think that is at least in part because of Brokeback and my friends here.
I met Callum (and I hate telling people this generally as you get some odd looks) through myspace. Yes myspace - now I was not looking for a relationship when i went on myspace and have never been on a dating site - but I was just surfing and having a look at people's profiles who lived nearby in between posting on IMDB tremblay. I came across him - liked his profile - seemed like a cool guy with similar interests. So I sent a slightly flirty message. we started up a whole online conversations And it all went from there.
I had been single for nearly 2 and a half years (after ending a realationship of 6 years that had gone bad - the guy treated me very badly in the end - although not physically, but love is blind and all that) and had been on only 2 dates in that time. I was fine being single but was a little depressed that I had noone special in my life. I think BBM helped me open up my emotions and realise that there was someone out there for me and it was going to happen when it was going to happen, and not to worry to much but that I might have to take some chances here and there.
My relationships with people online via Brokeback made me realise you could make some good adult friendships online and this made me more open to doing the same on myspace and therfore I took the iniaitive of actually contacting Callum.
It was after talking to Jenny (newyearsday) and a friend in 'real life' - i thought b*gger it - and took the plunge and agreed to a date with Callum.
After I met him - I thought he was lovely but too nice. I actually found conversations I had with Ray and Jenny the other day about him and it was funny looking back. but they said - whats wrong with a nice boy? he might be great for you. Whats the harm in a second date. i went and have been seeing him ever since.
I am totally in love. He feels the same. He basically lives at my house from a Friday night to a monday morning. My mother loves him, my sister loves him, my nieces now love him more than they love me these days and ask to speak to Uncle Callum everytime I answer the phone to them! And my friends think hes a great guy too. We had a great time on a holiday - when it could have all gone wrong and the plan is he'll move in properly after Christmas.
This is a picture of us at my best mates 1960's murder mystery party.
Thankyou BBM!!
EdiT: reducing size of pic cos it was HUGEEEEE!!!
belbbmfan:
Kelda,
i just had to reply. what a truely wonderful story! good for you. And yes you can make friendship (well, in your case a lot more :)) online.
i went to the brokie meeting in london in september. if someone had told me 'pre BBM' i was going to do that, i would have declared him/her nuts. But is was wonderful, felt like i had known the other brokies for a long time.
it certainly does feel like a priviledge, being a part of this community.
nice picture too :)
best of luck to you two!
Front-Ranger:
That's so sweet Kelda! Love the hat!
Toast:
The New Yorker Magazine
Just a note to remind everyone that it was on October 13, 1997
NINE YEARS AGO
that Annie Proulx saw the publication of
Brokeback Mountain
in this edition of The New Yorker Magazine.
since then it has appeared in their magazine as
a movie review,
a spoken word recording by Suzy Amis
and grist for their cartoons
What if I dont want to be Jack or Ennis.
Thank You Annie and The New Yorker
for getting Brokeback off to a start.
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