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Marge_Innavera:

--- Quote from: souxi on November 10, 2006, 12:45:04 pm ---Maybe it was an easier choice David, and for his wife and childrens sake I hope it was the right one. I,m not gay, so please correct me if I,m wrong here, but if your gay, how can you supress it? It will always be there, and the thing that gets me is: Sometimes you hear stories about gay men who get married, because that is what "normal" men do. Then they have kids, and then again, there is the "proof"..ther,e "normal". But sometimes, a few years down the line, they end up severly depressed and sometimes, end up committing suicide. They have then left a widow and orphaned kids. So what would have been better? Yes the poor girl would have been hurt if he had split up with her, sure, BUT at least she wouldnt be a widow and innocent kids wouldnt be orphaned. I hope, for everyones sake, your friend has made the right choice in his life, because if not, an awful lot of people are going to suffer for it. IMO, if you know, you are gay, you shouldnt get married just to prove to everyone that your "normal". It,s wrong.
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I'm neither gay nor bi, so this isn't an informed opinion. But IMO when you marry someone or make as permanent a commitment as possible (i.e., not the legal one yet if you're gay, not in the US  >:( ), you're making a commitment to keep that one person at the center of your life.  That's the situation whether it's the same gender or the opposite one.  So IMO, the best decision for a bi person to make would be to be as certain as possible that this one individual is THE ONE. And if the person is truly bi, any temptations after that would be about the same as for any married heterosexual person.  Seems to me that's very different from being paired with someone of the opposite gender when your natural inclinations are to your own; but again, I don't have personal experience to draw on there.

RonitR:

--- Quote from: DavidinHartford on November 10, 2006, 11:30:28 am ---  Oh so NOT true!   There are other reasons.

   The "Ennis" in my recent past was bisexual and claimed to enjoy sex equally with men and women.   He made his "choice" to marry a girl because it was easier.    He honestly felt that choosing the gay lifestyle would have made his life difficult and a hurt his family and career.  Which is sometimes true I suppose.     He claims to have supressed his gay side 100% so he can dedicate his life to his wife and new children.    And for the kids sake, I hope he does.

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Hi David,

I'm so sorry to read this !  :(.  I do hope that your "Ennis" doesn't live to regret his choice, but supressing half of yourself permanantly? seems a daunting (not to mention thankless) task...

Actually, I was thinking on exactly those lines, when I wrote my post.
A good (girl)friend on mine dated a bi guy for a while.
At the time, he desparately wanted to find a girl, get married and have kids - I guess because he wanted the "easier " way (not that anything can be easy in that situation...).

He ended up living with a guy. He said that it was because he couldn't find a woman who would accept his bi-sexuality, but I always had my doubts... kinda felt he chose the guy because, bottom line, they were more compatible.

Lumière:
I have been very open with the way I feel about Jeeves, lol..
So I vote Dupree and Jeeves give it a try!

About Janice, well, I aint feeling her at all.. ;D

By the way, June, in chorus with you: *squeeee* ..  :P

souxi:

--- Quote from: Lucise on November 10, 2006, 03:02:35 pm ---I have been very open with the way I feel about Jeeves, lol..
So I vote Dupree and Jeeves give it a try!

About Janice, well, I aint feeling her at all.. ;D

By the way, June, in chorus with you: *squeeee* ..  :P

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Here here Lucise, I,m with you. Go for it Jeremy, you wont know till ya do and if you dont you,ll just torture yourself wondering "what if?". He obviously wants to try, you can tell he,s just burning up with curiosity about it. I dont feel any "vibes" with Janice either. Seems like a bit of limp lettuce to me tbh lol. He could pick a lot worse than Jeeves for his first time lets face it. Go for it Jeremy.You only live once. With any luck he,ll love it so much he,ll be addicted lol. ;) ;D ;D

yb:
I have grown to like Jeeves a lot but I opt for Dupree finding another one at Red Stallion.  As we have seen, Jeeves will almost certainly have sex with Dupree if he so decided, but if after having sex with Jeeves, Dupree found out he's not into men or Jeeves is not the man for him, I'm sure Jeeves will accept it just like a gentleman but I think the hurt will be very deep.  The more considerate and tender he shows to Dupree, the deeper he will be hurt.  So, I'd rather Dupree find another one if he's not sure about his feeling for Jeeves.

BTW, David, I'm sorry to hear about your ex-Ennis.  It must hurt a lot.  Every time I read about a story of an Ennis, I felt so sorry that Ennises still exist in the modern world and people are complaining Ennis not brave enough to live with Jack back in 70s and 80s.  Good luck, David.

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