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RouxB:
There wasn't much commentary here about BbM on HBO tonight so I'm wondering-are you over it? I don't mean the love of the movie-I wouldn't expect that to ever go away-but the intensity and connecting thread that links us?

I don't read every single new post in every single thread anymore, I can go a couple of days without logging in-absolutely unheard of 6 months ago, and I don't think my world is coming to an end if a Tremblyan goes by the wayside. I'm getting over my sadness at the loss of some CT friends. I watch the movie very rarely and the pain the sound track causes is still too much for me so it sits in my reliquary.

Six months ago I feared that my emotion over this movie would change, would become less somehow. It did and it didn't. And while my attachments to all things BbM have changed, my obsession remains-I still feel this story deep into the fiber of my being.

So, a question I've asked before-where are you in your process? (And please someone be as nutty as me-I already worry about myself)

roux

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dot-matrix:
This movie touched my soul.  It opened me up and shined a light into places I was afraid to look too closely at.  It freed me from the mistakes of my past. Allowed me to forgive myself.   I don't think I will ever get over this film,  I don't think there will ever come a time when it fails to move me and it will always be one of those watershed films that I watch on special occassions.  It will always be a film I defend vehemently and recommend to everyone.

I was lucky, my significant other loved the film too so we talked a lot and the friend who took me to see it loved it so we talked a lot and I work with a group of gay men who all went cowboy for awhile because they loved it so much so I started lunching with a bunch of them and we TALKED.  So I was lucky I had real life friends to talk to about this subtle, life changing masterpiece....I had a couple of really nasty experiences on the IMBd BBM board last winter and only lurked there occassionally afterward, I hate meaness and petty intolerant people.  For these reasons I have never felt the obsessive need to chat about it on line.  Until coming here...this place has an addictive quality, for one thing there's more community here, with a Brokeback, multisexual flavor not limited to just film discussion, and there's none of the obivious ugliness that you have on IMDb, it's better hidden here and no trolls.  I don't know that I can stay though.  Bob's already noticing that I'm spending more and more time here.     

nakymaton:
I don't get TV at all (too cheap for satellite, and besides, DVDs and iTunes don't have commercials). And it's a night before a work day, so I didn't feel like getting out the DVD to watch in sympathy. And I was feeling a little sick, so I went to bed early.

But mostly... well, I haven't watched BBM since August. I just haven't felt a NEED to, and it didn't seem like the sort of thing to force. I've re-read the story since then -- there's something to be said about a story that can be read in half an hour, and the lessening impact just allows me to function like a normal human being in the hours afterwards. But I haven't found the need to set aside a couple hours and watch the movie. I'm finding other things interesting again... some new things, some old things that had burned me out in the past.

So, am I over it? Yes, in the sense of no longer needing to watch the movie again and again. Yes, in the sense that I don't go into the Open Forum every morning and post something. But, well, I'm not going to forget what I learned from the movie, even if I still don't know what to do with it.

moremojo:
Howdy, Roux, and all my BetterMost pardners:

Well, I'm happy to report that I'm not over this--not by a long shot! This ain't no little thing here, to be sure! I caught the end of Brokeback Mountain last night on HBO, at the moment of the "Do you ever get the feeling others know?" exchange; I found it quite by chance by flipping the channels.

I noticed it was showing on one of the regular HBO venues, and also at the same time on HBO's Spanish-language channel. Though my knowledge of Spanish is extremely rudimentary, I thought it would be fun to watch the movie through the end dubbed in Spanish. I noticed that the actor dubbing for Ennis said the Spanish equivalent of 'deceased' at the moment of the postcard receipt, and it was fun to hear the same man mimic Heath's hmmming, and the delicate giggle of the actress dubbing for Junior.

The closing shot faded out, and the credits started to roll, and the tears started to flow down my face all over again, just like I was seeing this beautiful story for the first time. My love, sympathy, and concern for Ennis was just as vivid and compelling as ever, as was my gratitude for Jack's gentle, nurturing spirit, and my regret for a lost moment in time stung at my heart as mysteriously as before, with the strange, inscrutable mountain itself looming over my rapt spirit.

I was amazed at the enduring power of this great work of art, which came through with such force even through the medium of a foreign language. Something has changed within me because of my encounter with Jack and Ennis, and, like Mel has intimated, I'm not at all sure I'll ever be able to fully explain it. But I will use the rest of my lifetime in the attempt.

With gratitude and love for you all,
Scott

Front-Ranger:
Scott that was beautiful!! You captured the feeling I have so well! The part that gets to me is when the last music swells at the end and you think simultaneously "Yes!" and "NOOO!!" giving in to the power of the mountain, and yet not wanting it to be over.

BetterMost has kept the magic of Brokeback Mountain alive for me, the laughing over the funny things and the crying over the tragedies we have gone through together. Also, meeting Annie Proulx, being a moderator, and planning for an event in 2007 has kept the obsession alive, and even intensified it. But most of all, it has been meeting Brokies in person. I had the most wonderful time meeting sfericsf on Saturday along with EDelMar--when he hugged me he literally swept me off my feet and it was like being hugged by Ennis himself!! There is nothing quite so satisfying as being with others who share your passions and love you unconditionally. That's what Ennis learned and what BetterMost holds for each and every one of us.

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