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ifyoucantfixit:
Acceptance is the hardest thing in the world to feel good about. We dont ever
understand why others cant understand us as we are. It is such a simple thing, and at the
same time so totally devastating to find its not given. Specially from those we love, and who
by every other account are supposed to love us.
You are brave and wonderful to do this Truman. Just know that whatever the outcome, you will always have people here who love you, and accept every thing that you are.
Rayn:
Dear Truman,
My family is a very conservative Roman Catholic family and when I came out to them years ago, they were devastated, especially my parents. But they never stopped loving me. They were confused a while and had to take a long while to process and question, but they're ok now and I'm ok with them as well.
If you ever tell your folks, your entire family, I hope they will be ok with you being who you are too, in time. It takes time, and thought and prayer, but most loving parents and siblings come round to knowing that your orientation does not change who you have always been to them, a son, a brother, and more often than not, they come to terms with loving you even if they don't agree with your lifestyle as my folks said for a while. We love you anyway, they'd say and I would reply, "As long as you love me, the way you do doesn't matter to me. I love you too." They have to do that , you see, or they lose a son & brother and most families don't want that.
So, yeah, it is scary and depressing too at times, but being yourself with your family is really an important thing in life. I know you understand that. I wish you the best whatever step you take in your own time in the future.
Rayn
CellarDweller:
--- Quote from: Shakestheground on September 25, 2007, 12:50:26 pm ---Amen. That is what we are doing, breaking the rules to the point they become irrelevant.
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One of those "rules" I break on a daily basis is not being "quiet" about who I am. I am out and tell everyone that I'm gay.
Gay tattoos on my arms, gay bumperstickers on my car, Brokeback Mountain memorabilia and pics of forum get togethers up in my cubicle.
People ask me why I am sooooo out. I tell them that if men who are scared to come out see me, and realize that I'm gay and out, and I'm ok, then maybe they'll find the inner courage to come out as well, and stop making their lives miserable.
HerrKaiser:
--- Quote from: ifyoucantfixit on September 25, 2007, 01:05:21 pm ---
Acceptance is the hardest thing in the world to feel good about. .
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I think if you can accept yourself on whatever terms make sense for your life, you'll feel good. If you place your destiny in the judgment of others, happiness will not be the result. while the high-fives are nice, you don't need others' to validate who you are.
Shakesthecoffecan:
Nice posts folks, we all have our ways to validate ourselves, and I have to tell you I feel very good right now. Yall are apart of that good feeling.
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