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isabelle:
I have managed to convince a few, some of whom my own (17-18 year-old) pupils and (20+year-old) students, by saying: "If you do not cry during or after watching this film, then you need to grow up". That did it, you know, at that age they don't want to be taken for kiddies who are unable to cry, like true grown-ups (those who've had a life anyway).

Pipedream:
My husband wasn't so keen on seing it at first, but I kept telling him he'd miss out on one of the best films of the year, so he finally came along (he still thinks that was my second viewing but I had actually seen the movie three times before we went to the cinema together...). It might also have helped that I mentioned some of the sissies at work wouldn't go to see it for various reasons. Sort of challenged his manliness...
I didn't make much of an effort to convince other people, though.   

 :)

isabelle:
My boyfriend being one who prefers silence to words, he has agreed he would watch it when we get the DVD simply because he wants to know what it is about the film that makes people crazy (from observing me).
None of my words could convince him. He loves traditional Western films so much that I think he is disturbed at the idea some cowboys might be gay - refuses to believe it!

Sheyne:
By and large I never tried to convince anybody.  That is, except my immediate family.  I DID drag two of my closest girlfriends along to see it, but they came cause they were sick of hearing me talk about it (just how much I loved it, not sort of "you HAVE to see this movie" kind of talk) and they wanted to see what the fuss was about. One liked it, the other friend, I am ashamed to admit, I am re-evaluating in a BIG way.  She said that given the way she was raised the only character she really identified with was Jack's father and that furthermore, her brother would probably have been one of the guys at the end who beat Jack (I'm NOT joking). Now, this friend lived way out west in Australia, probably a 9 hour drive from the Queensland coastline - its very remote. I imagine it, in my darker moments, as like 1963 Wyoming. Men are *grunt* MEN end of story.  And women raise children, keep house and don't bitch about it. You go nowhere fast, dreams die and if you are like me, you'd die in that environment too.  When she said all this me over a coffee after the movie, where I'm drying my eyes and floating in that emotional funk I always left a screening in, I was quite dumbfounded. Then shocked. Then seriously pissed off.  And I haven't been anywhere socially with her since. Oh, she's calling. And trying to get together. But funnily enough, I'm always busy when she's free. I mean, screw that, who needs friends like that right?

But after that episode, I just shut up tight as a drum.  Didn't even talk to people (except Ray and you fine folk) about the movie at all.  In fact, the only time I've spoken about it is the other night when my sister sat through the DVD with me and peppered me with questions. 

My point *reader sighs.. ahh finally* is that I'm not going to try and sway people to see it. I've learnt the hard way not to put something so close to my heart out there on my sleeve for people to sneer at, ridicule or judge. I love it and that's all that matters to me. I don't want to fight any battles over it.  In some ways I can see people's point of view - it is just a movie.  But its "just a movie" that has changed my life.  Not everybody needs to know about that, y'know?

ednbarby:
Oh my God, Sheyne.  How awful.  That would literally make me sick to my stomach.  Identifying with JOHN TWIST???  And the hate crime perpetrators??!!  I'm so sorry you had to find that out.  Here's a hug for you ((((Sheyne)))) and everyone else who will have to experience the hate in this woman's heart and that of anyone else in her family who "thinks" this way firsthand.

I've been really fortunate, I guess, in that only one person I've lent the DVD to had anything even approaching a negative reaction, and even that was just, "It was really well-done and a great story and beautiful to look at, but I don't think it was Academy Award material."  Yeah, OK.  Whatever.  But if that's the worst I'm getting, I'm doing very well.  I even got somewhat lucky with a very homophobic co-worker I offered it to.  He watches all kinds of movies all the time and is passionate about the good ones, but he is Armenian and was raised in Uraguay (sp?) in a big, macho, male-dominated family.  When he gave it back to me yesterday I said, "So... what did you think?"  He goes, "It was a very nice film.  Well-done.  But I don't want to go there with you about the subject matter."  Fair enough.  And frankly, I don't want to go there with him, either.  At least not in public.  ;)  He did say that his wife *loved* it and wept at the end and is still talking about it.  So maybe her gentle prodding will nudge him slowly towards the light.

I know what you mean, though, Sheyne - I am *very* careful about who I lend it to because I don't want to put my heart out there on my sleeve only to be mocked or worse in the final analysis.  This movie is so much a part of me now, it would be like having the very essence of my soul be mocked or criticized.

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