I've never been one much for combining food and sex, myself. (Well, unless you call wining and dining me beforehand a combination - and that's always welcome, btw.)
As far as the sauce goes, I grew up with the stuff in the can. And I've tried homemade relishes. Don't like either. Too tart for me. I'd rather have something sweet, like applesauce, as a kind of relish. Ed likes the can-shaped stuff, so I bought a can for him and plan to make one with fresh cranberries and oranges and orange liquer. I'm kinda thinkin' the more liquer I add, the more tasty it'll be. Or maybe I just won't care so much if it isn't.