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Your age and your favourite cowboy
moremojo:
Howdy, folks--
Scott, letting ya know that I just voted. I am a male, thirty-nine years of age, and, even though I love both Jack and Ennis, I do have to admit I am more drawn to Ennis. Maybe it's that silent, stoic 'Marlboro Man' thing he's got goin' there; I also sense I would feel very safe and protected in his presence (and in his arms [if only...sigh]).
Scott
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: latjoreme on April 23, 2006, 10:13:14 pm ---OK. I'll take your word for it. Though that still doesn't explain quite ednbarby characterizing them the same way.
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Sure it does. I dated a boy, fell painfully in love with him, he wasn't ready to settle down, or at least not with me. Then I met Ed. Mature beyond his years, or at least seemingly. Quiet. Stoic. Biting wit when he did say something, but wasn't one I'd characterize as a talker. Steady. Puts everything in perspective. Doesn't much like surprises. Isn't one for emotional outbursts except for the very rare angry one, and then it's just a string of expletives and a beating upon the most readily available inanimate object. The boy was 25 years old when I fell for him. The daddy was 29. I was 23. Not much chronological age difference. But eons of difference in temperament. Whenever I hear the song, "You Can't Always Get What You Want (but when you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need)" by the Rolling Stones, I smile. Because a boy is what I wanted, but a daddy is what I needed. And got.
Jeff Wrangler:
--- Quote ---Sure it does. I dated a boy, fell painfully in love with him, he wasn't ready to settle down, or at least not with me. Then I met Ed. Mature beyond his years, or at least seemingly. Quiet. Stoic. Biting wit when he did say something, but wasn't one I'd characterize as a talker. Steady. Puts everything in perspective. Doesn't much like surprises. Isn't one for emotional outbursts except for the very rare angry one, and then it's just a string of expletives and a beating upon the most readily available inanimate object. The boy was 25 years old when I fell for him. The daddy was 29. I was 23. Not much chronological age difference. But eons of difference in temperament. Whenever I hear the song, "You Can't Always Get What You Want (but when you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need)" by the Rolling Stones, I smile. Because a boy is what I wanted, but a daddy is what I needed. And got.
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Gee, and I thought a "daddy" was just a gay thing. ...
Seriously, Barb, what a sweet and lovely testimonial! Reading it just improved my mood on an ugly, stormy Monday morning! Thank you for sharing that with the rest of us!
serious crayons:
That was a nice story, Barb, and I won't try to argue that you and Jeff can't characterize these cowboys however you want to, for whatever reasons make sense to you!
But I see Jack as the mature parental figure: patient, nurturing, steady, protective. And when I look at Ennis, I see an adorable, sad, poignant, vulnerable, confused, needy 19-to-39-year-old. Yes, he's stoic and Marlboroish, but those qualities seem offhand and natural in him rather than developed through experience. In fact, it's the conflict between his vulnerability and his stoicism that makes Ennis so appealing.
In high school, we used to talk about how in any couple one person or the other is always "the baby of the couple" -- the one who gets catered to and protected and indulged and sheltered and fussed over. To me, Ennis is the baby of the couple.
And I would love to have him as my baby! On the other hand, if he wanted to be the protector and beat up some slop-bucket-mouthed bikers on my behalf, that would be OK, too.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: latjoreme on April 24, 2006, 12:45:44 pm ---That was a nice story, Barb, and I won't try to argue that you and Jeff can't characterize these cowboys however you want to, for whatever reasons make sense to you!
But I see Jack as the mature parental figure: patient, nurturing, steady, protective. And when I look at Ennis, I see an adorable, sad, poignant, vulnerable, confused, needy 19-to-39-year-old. Yes, he's stoic and Marlboroish, but those qualities seem offhand and natural in him rather than developed through experience. In fact, it's the conflict between his vulnerability and his stoicism that makes Ennis so appealing.
In high school, we used to talk about how in any couple one person or the other is always "the baby of the couple" -- the one who gets catered to and protected and indulged and sheltered and fussed over. To me, Ennis is the baby of the couple.
And I would love to have him as my baby! On the other hand, if he wanted to be the protector and beat up some slop-bucket-mouthed bikers on my behalf, that would be OK, too.
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That's a good point, latjoreme. Jack really is the nurturing one and the one who caters to the other. But I guess I was thinking of the question in terms of what "type" I was attracted to in my 20s versus my 40s. If I were in my 20s now, I'm guessing I would find Ennis immediately the more appealing (well, depending on where in my 20s I was, I guess). He would strike me as the seemingly hard-as-nails man who was vulnerable, too. That's what appealed to me about my husband the most when I met him - he seemed outwardly strong but inwardly tender. Whereas Jack is outwardly tender and inwardly strong, if that makes any sense. Now that I've been with someone for so long who can be hard as nails to read sometimes, it'd be a treat to be with someone like Jack who lays it out there on his sleeve for you to see. But again, I reckon that isn't what I need - too much like me, I think. My Ed is the yang to my yin. We wouldn't have lasted so long as we have if there weren't things in each other we don't already have in ourselves.
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