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Bitch, Bitch, Bitch
Pipedream:
Del! That's a doddamn bitch of an unsatisfactory situation, indeed! >:(
I guess they just take your hard work for granted. It can't go on like this. One of these days, there will have to be a confrontation, and I think you will look rather good in it! They know what you are worth! :-*
injest:
ok. my rant for the day...
my mother broke both legs and an arm. Obviously cant' take care of herself. So my sister takes her to her house. She has a four bedroom custom built home. Does she put my mother in one of the rooms? NO>..she is making my mother sleep on the couch!
and bitching to beat sixty about it.
I told her we should put her in a nursing home temporarily...just til she can get around on her own.
"NO!! No mother of mine is going to a nursing home!"
Oh so just let her sit on your couch and listen to you complain about her?? that is better?
She says she has spent more than $300 on her since she has been there...(one week). You know what she is buying? diapers, disposible pads, sheets....cause you know if ANY part of my mother touchs anything that belongs to her it will be the end of the world! She wants me to give her money for all that crap...I don't think so. She is CHOOSING to spend that money...she could just use towels and the sheets she HAS.
I will not be emotionally blackmailed into bringing her here. I won't. There are nursing homes available. We could take turns staying with her. If my sister wants to keep her out it is on her!
I know...I sound terrible. But I know I can't let her stay here. I couldn't handle it.
and if my sister says " I pulled myself up by my bootstraps" ONE MORE TIME...I am gonna bitch slap her. She most certainly did NOT. She lived for two years with my mother. and she lived here for almost a year! Then she got married to her husband du jour and they lived rent free for three years in a house HIS family owned.
That is not 'pulling yourself up by your bootstraps'!!
And as far as finances go?? If you can afford to spend $400 to have your hair colored...you can afford to feed one old woman.
please!
ok....I will be nice now... :) :P
injest:
ok no I wont....I am not finished yet.
I am SICK of her superior attitude about her 'success'....SHE has a big bank account, SHE has a sports car, SHE has a custom built $150,000 house.
but you know what else she has? She has a husband that beats her. She has a four year old that sits by herself in her room with her head on her hands looking sad, saying "My momma is yelling again". She has a four year old that cries and begs me to not leave her there. She has two older girls that would rather be with me than her. She has a museum....not a home.
I don't have a lot of cash. I have an older house. The carpet is looking sad in some places. The animals have shed some hair in here. I got two litter boxes. Sometimes it smells a bit in here....my husbands boots sometimes tracks stuff in here...
but you know what else I have?? I have a home where it is ok to put your feet up. I have a husband that is gentle and loving to me. I have a son that smiles and kisses me in the morning.
I guess it all depends on how you define 'success'.
David In Indy:
--- Quote from: injest on August 17, 2007, 10:37:07 pm ---ok no I wont....I am not finished yet.
I am SICK of her superior attitude about her 'success'....SHE has a big bank account, SHE has a sports car, SHE has a custom built $150,000 house.
but you know what else she has? She has a husband that beats her. She has a four year old that sits by herself in her room with her head on her hands looking sad, saying "My momma is yelling again". She has a four year old that cries and begs me to not leave her there. She has two older girls that would rather be with me than her. She has a museum....not a home.
I don't have a lot of cash. I have an older house. The carpet is looking sad in some places. The animals have shed some hair in here. I got two litter boxes. Sometimes it smells a bit in here....my husbands boots sometimes tracks stuff in here...
but you know what else I have?? I have a home where it is ok to put your feet up. I have a husband that is gentle and loving to me. I have a son that smiles and kisses me in the morning.
I guess it all depends on how you define 'success'.
--- End quote ---
What you just said makes me that of that Brooks and Dunn song "Red Dirt Road"...
It's where I drank my first beer
It's where I found Jesus
Where I wrecked my first car
I tore it all to pieces
I learned the path to heaven is full of sinners and believers
Learned that happiness on earth ain't just for high achievers
I've learned I've come to know
There's life at both ends
Of that red dirt road
It sounds like you are very lucky in many ways Jess! :D
delalluvia:
Well said Jess, you have a successful life the rest of us can only dream of.
Not only do you and your husband love how and where you live, so do your nieces.
Don't cave into guilt or emotional blackmail. You need to also consider the health and happiness of your house hold. Let your sister bitch, but I'd be thinking about some cool comeback the next time the 'bootstrap' thing comes up.
With my sister, since she has the cell phone and I can't afford one, she is the first person my mother calls whenever she needs something or has an emergency.
My sister complains and grumbles and bitches and finally starting dropping hints about me not doing "my fair share".
My mother was ill with cancer while taking care of my father who was also ill and on his last legs when my sister had her daughter. My sister has never believed that having a child meant giving up partying and bars and bringing strange men home - especially when she and her husband separated. She was on a tight budget, always complaining she didn't have money, but she always had money to party...but not for a babysitter.
She called my mom. My mother, unable to put her foot down would say oblique things like, "I'm not feeling too good, daddy was tired, he's gone to bed early." hoping my sister would pick up the hint.
Knowing she was not going to get a direct refusal, my sister would just blithely reply, "It's ok, my daughter won't bother you. It'll just be for a few hours."
And she'd drop off her daughter regardless. This shit has gone on for some time now, expanding now to my mother needing to pick up her granddaughter at school because her mother can't make it for whatever reason. My mother does all this for free, mind you. My sister has paid her nothing.
So, finally, in the last year, when my sister's griping and hints about taking care of mother got to be too much for me, I simply replied, "Boy, paybacks for all that free babysitting mom did for you are a bitch, aren't they?"
I've said that twice in the last few months and now, I don't hear her bitching to me anymore.
Ah, bliss. 8)
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