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delalluvia:
My poor mom.
It isn't bad enough that she's terminal and invalid, but things just keep happening.
Last night around 11 pm, some stupid drunk MF plowed his car into a brand spanking new car parked on her street. He tried to run, but was so drunk, he jumped his car over the sidewalk and right into her front yard and fence, tearing down the concrete posts, driveway gate, sidewalk gate, two shrubs and all the fencing in-between.
He was so drunk, he couldn't even stand to try to escape on foot. The neighbors - whose new car he totalled - kept a watch over him until the police arrived - 1.5 hours later.
The cops took him off to jail and impounded his car. For all the good it will do.
He had no driver's license, was an illegal alien and so of course, he had no insurance.
>:( >:(
Boy, was my mom pissed. We were over there today, taking pictures of the damage, hauling away loose pieces and hoping she has full coverage on her homeowners insurance policy to pay for all the damage.
Kelda:
God, thats a real shame Del.. :-\ >:(
And what an ass!
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: Kelda on July 26, 2009, 09:29:29 am ---God, thats a real shame Del.. :-\ >:(
And what an ass!
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Thanks Kelda. My sister thinks it's "exciting", I think it's a pain the ass and makes me grumpy about our helplessness - that people can be so irresponsible and for all practical purposes get away with it. >:( It ups my mother's blood pressure and stresses her out which is not good for someone with a suppressed immune system. We can only hope insurance will pay for the repairs, otherwise my mother will be forced to use more of her retirement/savings to pay to repair the damage. >:(.
delalluvia:
New bitch of the day.
Why is it that on internet community boards, I seem to get along fine with boards whose posters are the majority men and boards that are co-ed, but on boards where the majority of the posters are women, I don't.
I find this extremely strange seeing as men are scarce in my life and I do nothing but interact almost daily with no one but women. I've not dated or had sex with a man in over 5 years, my sister hasn't had men in her life on a regular basis since her divorce, my father passed away years ago, I only see my half-brother one or twice a year, all my closest friends are women and when I was employed, the majority of my fellow co-workers were women as well.
I am invariably confronted, told I am too upfront, too blunt {that is seen as a bad thing, apparently), the wording of my posts is 'unfortunate' or trollish. Some posters react with teary and/or very angry bitchy emotional posts.
Not that they all do, of course. A few women support and/or understand what I was saying/meant, but they invariably get beaten down by the outpouring of outrage. But seeing as I behave and the mods don't caution me and indeed they have posted several times cautioning the others that the board is a discussion board and not a 'support' board, there isn't much they can do except gang up against me whenever I post - sort of like a high school clique.
This has happened on at least 2 boards for me so far.
Anyone else have this problem or it is just me?
serious crayons:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on July 26, 2009, 02:41:36 pm ---New bitch of the day.
Why is it that on internet community boards, I seem to get along fine with boards whose posters are the majority men and boards that are co-ed, but on boards where the majority of the posters are women, I don't.
I find this extremely strange seeing as men are scarce in my life and I do nothing but interact almost daily with no one but women. I've not dated or had sex with a man in over 5 years, my sister hasn't had men in her life on a regular basis since her divorce, my father passed away years ago, I only see my half-brother one or twice a year, all my closest friends are women and when I was employed, the majority of my fellow co-workers were women as well.
I am invariably confronted, told I am too upfront, too blunt {that is seen as a bad thing, apparently), the wording of my posts is 'unfortunate' or trollish. Some posters react with teary and/or very angry bitchy emotional posts.
Not that they all do, of course. A few women support and/or understand what I was saying/meant, but they invariably get beaten down by the outpouring of outrage. But seeing as I behave and the mods don't caution me and indeed they have posted several times cautioning the others that the board is a discussion board and not a 'support' board, there isn't much they can do except gang up against me whenever I post - sort of like a high school clique.
This has happened on at least 2 boards for me so far.
Anyone else have this problem or it is just me?
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Hunh. I take it you mean at boards other than BetterMost? I haven't noticed this happening to you here. You and I have certainly had our disagreements, some pretty intense but never teary or bitchy. In fact, I've always thought you were very good at keeping your cool. Other times, of course, we've agreed.
But then, maybe this is one of the co-ed boards you were referring to. Here, I don't think I see much difference between the way that women in general and men in general express themselves. Some of both sexes are very outspoken and opinionated, others of both sexes avoid debate and don't like conflict.
BetterMost and IMDb's BBM board are the only message boards I've ever contributed to extensively. I was on a yahoo board for mothers for a while -- all women, obviously -- and I did contribute some posts, sometimes disagreeing with other POVs, but it never got too carried away. For the most part, people posted lone opinions or articles rather than debating back and forth. It was more a newsletter-style board, though.
So I have nothing more to add from personal experience, though I would be interested in hearing others' thoughts. I can see where it might be possible that women, who are often socialized to cooperate, would get more upset by strong arguments than men, who are socialized to compete. As I said, I don't see that happening here, but maybe at all-women's boards it does.
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