I'm Jeff. I wear Wrangler jeans (because Levis are too baggy in the oh-never-mind). End of story. ;D
I,m named after one of Ennis,s horses, Souxi, in Leslie,s ALBFS. :)
I never knew that! I am flattered, and honored, Souxi!
Mine is, of course, what Alma Jr. tells her mother when Ennis drops off the girls in the grocery store. I love this line because, like so many seemingly throwaway lines in BBM, it actually holds much more meaning than is immediately apparent. In fact, it kind of captures a theme of the entire movie.That's why she broke out in that glorious smile!! I love your name, ineed, and the fact that YOU chose it!!
Everyone needs crayons -- i.e., color, pleasure, happiness. Ennis denied those for himself throughout hs life. It's as if Alma Jr., even at five (or however old she's supposed to be there) recognizes this need. When Alma Sr. says "Not now," she's saying, subtextually, that "now," at that point in their lives, there is no opportunity for color or pleasure. At the end of the movie, Alma Jr. presumably is finally about to get her crayons.
I'm Jeff. I wear Wrangler jeans (because Levis are too baggy in the oh-never-mind). End of story. ;D
I,m named after one of Ennis,s horses, Souxi, in Leslie,s ALBFS. :)
Leslie, I guess I never told you this. But my kids and I have decided a while back that if we ever get a horse, he or she will be called Twister! :laugh:
Snavel is the pet name my boyfriend uses for me... It's Dutch for beak of a bird...
8)
:laugh: that's funny! why a bird beak?????
I'm Jeff. I wear Wrangler jeans (because Levis are too baggy in the oh-never-mind). End of story. ;D
Oh yeah, but I changed my name, didn't I? Atreyu is one of the characters from a book called "The Never Ending Story". It is also a movie. His name means "Son Of All" but it's not Lakota. At least I don't think it is. Maybe they made the name up.
Oh, that's who you are! :laugh:
Hey, FYI, it is very easy to change your username here whenever you like:
Go to your profile, click on Account Related Settings, up at the top you can type in a new username, at the bottom type in your password, and voila, your BetterMost name has been changed. Do it every day, if you want.
A lot of people changed their name for April Fool's Day last year (April first), it was fun and confusing. I hope we do it again this year.
Didn't we have a thread like this way back in the day?De la lluvia"of the rain"in Spanish
An ex-boyfriend thought it up for me when all my attempts at figuring out a name kept getting rejected as already taken. :P
There is an old thread like this dating back to, like, April 2006 and probably not updated much since. So it's good to get a fresh start going.
So THAT's what your username means! I've always wondered, 'lluvia!
Melissa, my Grandfather had a nickname for me too. It was sprinkhaan (sp?) I think he started calling me this just after Dad bought the trampoline and I was always out in the backyard jumping on it! LOL
:laugh: that's funny! why a bird beak?????
Didn't we have a thread like this way back in the day?De la lluvia"of the rain"in Spanish
An ex-boyfriend thought it up for me when all my attempts at figuring out a name kept getting rejected as already taken. :P
Nutmeg Guy is in reference to an old Connecticut State slogan or nickname. The "Nutmeg State".
I like the alphabet.
Kelda - well I'm boring - its my name - scandanavian for a mountain spring!
totally cool! i hate flying, so you wouldn't catch me in that, but regardless, very cool!
(Crayon's name was latjoreme before)
Yep! ;D I get a real kick out of people calling me Del or Dela. I'm being called "Of" or "Of the".
Did you see the movie "Once upon a time in Mexico"? with Johnny Depp and Antonio Banderas? One of the jokes running through the movie is that the Antonio Banderas' character is called "El"
Cucuy: He's called "El". It means "the".
Sands: I know what it means.
Personally I'm kicking myself for not figuring out your name. I'd been thinking all this time that it was a personal thing, something to do with kids or your childhood. D'oh!
I'm so backwards. I hate/am terrified of flying, but I think I'd love flying an ultra-light.
I got my nick from an ex boyfriend who used to make fun of me because I tend to have strong opinions about everything (he says). However, opinionista is not a term in Spanish. It is italian. I found that out online since I first thought he had made the word up. I don't know where the hell he got it from, but he called me that.
Even I call you Del and I've always known what your nick means. Strange isnt it?
I got my nick from an ex boyfriend who used to make fun of me because I tend to have strong opinions about everything (he says).
However, opinionista is not a term in Spanish. It is italian. I found that out online since I first thought he had made the word up. I don't know where the hell he got it from, but he called me that.
Nope, you're not backwards. It goes perfectly with one explanatory model of why people have fear of flying.
*digging out some kitchen-sink psychology* Fear of lying has its main seeds in fear of losing/letting go control.
So if you flew such a little grasshopper yourself, you'd be in control.
THAT's what it was. I thought she had a different name before crayons. Didn't latjoreme come from someone typing her real name on the wrong keys of the keyboard?
That's right, Del. In college, someone typed it into the computer with their fingers in the wrong place, so all of the correspondence I got from the school from then on spelled my name that way.
(Crayon's name was latjoreme before)
See? I didn't know the red part. How fitting for a Brokie :)
You were destined for Brokiedom all your life ;).
My nick comes from a figure from Greek mythology. Penthesilea was the queen of the Amazons, a tribe of female warriors.
I actually heard it in a British TV series (Cracker), where a character got nicknamed Penthesilea.
I liked the character in the series, I liked the mythological figure and the ring of the name, so it stuck with me.
My nick comes from a figure from Greek mythology. Penthesilea was the queen of the Amazons, a tribe of female warriors.
I actually heard it in a British TV series (Cracker), where a character got nicknamed Penthesilea.
I liked the character in the series, I liked the mythological figure and the ring of the name, so it stuck with me.
It's so funny that we've known each other, in some cases, for literally years, and we're just now figuring out how to pronounce each others' names and why we have them and what they mean. :laugh:
Good goin, forsythia!
How is it pronounced? Every time I see your name, in my mind I pronounce it "Pen-the-SEE-lee-ah. Am I pronouncing it correctly Chrissi?
Uh oh. I've been mentally pronouncing it Penth-uh-sih-LAY-uh. :P
That's okay. I'll just call you Chrissi. ;D
Uh oh. I've been mentally pronouncing it Penth-uh-sih-LAY-uh. :P
Uh oh. I've been mentally pronouncing it Penth-uh-sih-LAY-uh. :P
Yep! ;D I get a real kick out of people calling me Del or Dela. I'm being called "Of" or "Of the".
That's right, Del. In college, someone typed it into the computer with their fingers in the wrong place, so all of the correspondence I got from the school from then on spelled my name that way.
My story has some similarities with BBM´s,but she was like Ennis; denying "a sweet life together",being afraid with other people's opinion and not feeling well with her feelings 100%.Although I was like Jack,always pleading for getting that "sweet life",always getting deceived in my deepest feelings and hopes, I call her "Jack" because He's my favorite of the two cowboys.And she's my private Jack because our story is very special and after so many years,and forever,it will remain something between the two of us-no matter how many partners we'll have or with who we'll be...-
I play computer game called Flight Simulator, NZ063 is my online call sign
Bit of advice for the fear of flying friends, there are courses you can take, or alternatively just let the cabin crew know you're a bit anxious about flying. I had a lady flying with us the other night, she was in quite a state, my colleague and I spent a bit of time with her throughout the flight and she was as good as gold. She made the efford in the terminal to thank us. ;D
I knew your name meant "Of the something," but I always call you Del also. Funny how our minds work.
I work in the admissions office at my college, mostly entering data for prospective/new students. I hope I never do that to someone! (Although I suppose it would provide them with a good screen name.)
When I was getting my first email address, I tried to do my initials (CMR) with numbers that actually meant something, but they were all taken. It kept suggesting CMR with different numbers that were free, and I finally got tired of trying and accepted cmr107. I justified it by the fact that my favorite radio station at the time was 107.7.
When I registered at IMDB, I used cmr107 because it was easy. I never expected to post anything at all, let alone become part of a whole comminuty. I kept it when I came to Bettermost so people would know who I was. I've been wanting to change it here, but I keep thinking that no one will know who I am if I do.
go ahead and change it! if you are worried about people not recognizing you at first then put it in your sig "Used to be CMR107" or something.....people will get used to the new name quicker than you think!
RouxB (Ruby) is the name of my car. It is red and I wanted something that was non-gender specific (yes, I am kinda random) so Roux for red, add the B and voila-Rouxb. I'm thinking of changing it though...
and O0 is me-brought with us from IMDb in case you every wondered why that particular smilie is in the line-up.
How is it pronounced? Every time I see your name, in my mind I pronounce it "Pen-the-SEE-lee-ah. Am I pronouncing it correctly Chrissi?
My story has some similarities with BBM´s,but she was like Ennis; denying "a sweet life together",being afraid with other people's opinion and not feeling well with her feelings 100%.Although I was like Jack,always pleading for getting that "sweet life",always getting deceived in my deepest feelings and hopes, I call her "Jack" because He's my favorite of the two cowboys.And she's my private Jack because our story is very special and after so many years,and forever,it will remain something between the two of us-no matter how many partners we'll have or with who we'll be...-
I joined BetterMost for the chat before the trip. I never expected to become an active member .....
:-* :-* :-* And we are all so glad that you did!!! {{{{{HUGS}}}}}
I LOVED reading about everyone's name meanings, and I am fascinated and also feeling a bit retarded! I never really thought about using anything but my own name. Well, when I started going on IMDB, I didn't have a choice, because of ignorance. They automatically give you the name that's on your email account, and I didn't know how to change it. And then I came here, and... well, again, I just never really thought about being anyone different.
It has me wondering, though. I love some of the names people have chosen for themselves - names that are symbolic, or from mythology. I absolutely love it, and I don't know that I could ever do it for myself. In the same way, I could never imagine changing my last name to a 'married' name. What's weird is that I knew that even when I was a little girl, maybe 5 or 6. I remember becoming aware of the fact that women (in those days, almost universally) changed their names when they got married, and I was just very clear in my mind that I never would, because... well, because my name just feels like my name!
And when I think about choosing a username, it kind of feels the same way. And I'm also the same with costumes.. like, Hallowe'en costumes. I will dress theatrically if called upon to dress up, but I'm still 'me'... I've never liked dressing up 'as' anyone, or obscuring my own appearance and taking on that of a character or a historical figure.
so weird!! I just wonder why I'm like that and so many other people don't mind it, or even like it... does it mean that my sense of identity is somehow fragile and I need to keep sort of reminding myself of it? I really don't know!
But, that having been said, I could imagine using other "ma" names as versions of my name, especially if they are the name of someone in my family. Like, I've often thought, if I need a nom de plume, that I would probably use my grandmother's name, Mara. I have also on occasion used my daughter's name, which is similar and also starts with an "Ma".
And I've lately noticed, when I write a story, if I give a female character a name starting with 'M', she's usually a thinly disguised version of me!
Is anyone else weird and inflexible about names like I am? I just have so much admiration for everyone's self-naming capabilities! :)
I have also on occasion used my daughter's name, which is similar and also starts with an "Ma".
What's weird is that I knew that even when I was a little girl, maybe 5 or 6. I remember becoming aware of the fact that women (in those days, almost universally) changed their names when they got married, and I was just very clear in my mind that I never would, because... well, because my name just feels like my name!
Besides, Malina is a lovely name. :) What does it mean?
I was that way, too. Long before married women started keeping their names, I thought it seemed really unfair that they had to adopt their husbands' names. I had a strong sense of parity -- maybe that came from having a brother close to my age. Everything we got always had to be exactly even! :laugh:
So anyway, now that I'm married I do still have my "own" name.
Just earlier today I was thinking about an old coworker who felt even more strongly about this -- she was so uncomfortable having only her father's last name that she took her mother's, too, and combined them.
Howdy Malina-5,
I thought your name had a groovy secret agent quality like Agent 99 or Agent 86. I'm sorry you dropped the "5" when you came to Bettermost.
Toycoon
Hi Katherine!
I had heard my grandfather say that our family name was going to die out after the next generation, because his only son, my dad, had only girls, no sons. And I didn't get it at first, and then I did, or maybe I had it explained to me - and that's when I just knew that he was wrong! Something about being told that I "would" change my name, like it was inevitable fact, made me ... well, not determined, but just made me realize that I wouldn't!
I know a couple who each kept their own last names, but then combined them into a single name, not hyphenated, but just a single name, for their kids. Luckily their names were both one syllable and it worked. I also know a couple who, when they got married, made up a totally new surname for themselves and their family. hmm. That is an interesting concept.. ::)
To tell the truth, I sometimes find it odd that everyone in my family has the same last name except me.
Interestingly, one of my aunts--who was considered to be one of the most liberal and feminist women in the family--was the one who was most opposed to me keeping my name when I got married. First she tried to argue that it is legally required (it isn't) and then she tried to argue that it was the "right" thing to do. That didn't go anywhere. She had always given me a check for Christmas as a gift. After I was married, she made it out to "Mrs. Anthony Jendrek" which was really insulting, since that wasn't my name. But I still took the money! LOL
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LOL -- Did you endorse it with the name you'd kept? ;D
Hmmmm... "Malina-5 Forever"? Tres exotique!
Hi yourself! :)
So I'm wondering, did this make your grandfather happy? I hope so. But something tells me that for a lot of people of that generation, this wouldn't really "count." Because in much of Western culture, we're so used to linking family lineage/surname/male heir. So a grandfather (not yours necessarily, as I don't know him) might think, "OK, fine for Malina to keep the name, this funny feminist trend will extend it for one more generation, but then her daughter will change hers, and that's the end of that." And to some extent, grandfathers who that way may be right (again, I mean generally) because I think the pendulum toward keeping "maiden" names is somewhat swinging back.
It's interesting, though! Just writing this, I can see how the issue of family names has an element of 'laying claim' to people, somehow... or is that just my weird family? :-\
No, I think you're right, that's the ancient traditional meaning of all this. Names indicated kinship, and they came from men because men were the heads of the clan. Now all that sounds like something out of ... I don't know, Beowulf. We can get past it, but discarding longstanding traditions is always hard for some people. I think now as a culture we're finally getting used to the idea that people can have all kinds of different last names and yet be members of the same family.
I'll tell you what I find the most annoying. There's this one aunt of my husband's who sends us Christmas cards addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. [John Doe]." That would bug me even if my last name actually was Doe!
I think in the real old-fashioned etiquette, a woman went by "Mrs. John Doe" (using her husband's name) if she was a widow, and "Mrs. Mary Doe" (using her first name) if she was divorced, assuming, of course, that she didn't take back her maiden name when she got divorced. This would be to differentiate "Mary" from the new "Mrs. John Doe" who would be her ex-husband's second wife.
Sort of ridiculous, isn't it?
I've never understood why in the USA women lose their lastnames when getting married. And if they want to keep it they have to ask the court!
hmm... I don't remember if it made him happy. I think, because I was so young at the time, it wasn't something that was taken seriously. I think it was just stated as a fact - because there were only girls in the family, of course the name would not be passed on. You know what, though? I kept my last name, and I always will, and I always knew I would, but I didn't end up passing it on after all! My daughter has her father's name. She has my last name too, but we didn't hypenate it, and so it's officially one of her middle names, which is very old fashioned. Of course, some members of my extended families insist on calling her by my surname and ignoring her real last name... when they address cards to her and stuff. Well, that's just silly family politics..
As to why I did it that way... you know, I'm not quite sure. It doesn't feel strange to me that my daughter and I don't have the same last name. It never has.. maybe it should, but it doesn't. At the time, I did it that way because - well, because I could tell that he, her father, wanted it to be that way. And as it turned out, he passed away when she was 15 months old, and I've always felt glad that she has something from her father, and that sense of belonging in his family. It's almost like I feel her 'belonging' with me is such a simple and constant fact that the name seems irrelevant, but with her father's family, it could have gone either way - the sense of belonging, that is - but I'm glad it is the way it is.
It's interesting, though! Just writing this, I can see how the issue of family names has an element of 'laying claim' to people, somehow... or is that just my weird family? :-\
I have an aunt (a widow of a certain age) who insists on being called "Mrs. John Southend". When her newest daughter-in-law addressed the Xmas card to "Mrs. Mary Southend" she let it be known that she was insulted!
Actually, no, that's not true. When a woman gets married, it is the only time she can legally change her name without going to court. But it is not required by any law that a woman must change her name when she gets married--it is just a tradition. So, if a woman (like me) chooses not to change her name, she doesn't need to do anything. For me, nothing changed. License, credit cards were all the same. And I didn't have to go to court to keep my name.
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I have an aunt (a widow of a certain age) who insists on being called "Mrs. John Southend". When her newest daughter-in-law addressed the Xmas card to "Mrs. Mary Southend" she let it be known that she was insulted!
I see it as more of a sense of unity...as being part of a group. There is something intangible about names but to me a family with everyone having last names seems disjointed...like a patchwork quilt...nothing wrong with it but just a feeling that the union isnt as strong.
I think it's so revealing of major cultural attitudes and of how ingrained certain conventions are in society... to realize how incredibly rare it is for a husband to take his wife's name. In fact, I think many men would find the idea insulting or laughable. It does happen once in a while (my parents have friends whose son took his wife's last name in a hyphenated way). But, the fact that the burden is always, or almost always, placed on the woman to have to deal with the pressures about changing names is just really depressing to me.
This convention I think really reveals how ingrained patriarchal traditions are in society still to a large degree.
Why does creating family unity always have to come at the expense of a woman's identity?
In Puerto Rico women keep their last names upon getting married. And the children legally go by both their dad and their mom's last name, as they do in Spain. Like this "Mary (insert dad's lastname) (insert mom's lastname)".
Exactly. And as you suggest, that applies to many situations, but this is a good example of one. Think of the hassle of changing driver's license, credit cards, business cards, stationery, email address, checking account, social security account, etc., etc. Think of the dilemma for women who have built up a professional reputation under their "maiden" name, then having to either reeducate everybody about their new name or live a double life with two names.
But my biggest objection is the symbolic unfairness.
I know of one or two couples in which the husband hyphenated his name, too. But often there's something a bit more tentative and symbolic about that. Like, they might sort of unofficially say they've changed their name to John Hisname-Hername. But in practice, they're still widely known as John Hisname. I guess in cases like that the question to ask is, did the guy change his driver's license, credit cards, business cards, etc. etc.? If so, then good for him. But I think that's very rare.
I agree with everything you just said Bud. I wonder if anyone here has heard of an example where a husband has entirely changed his name to take his wife's last name (not hyphenated). I'm sure it's probably happened at some point, but I honestly can't think of an example that I've encountered personally.
I agree with everything you just said Bud. I wonder if anyone here has heard of an example where a husband has entirely changed his name to take his wife's last name (not hyphenated). I'm sure it's probably happened at some point, but I honestly can't think of an example that I've encountered personally.
I know a guy who took the name of his wife. Not hyphenated, just her name and abandoned his former last name completely. But I have to say that he had gotten his last name from his step-father and he hated the man's guts. He was very happy to not longer share the name with that man.
I agree with everything you just said Bud. I wonder if anyone here has heard of an example where a husband has entirely changed his name to take his wife's last name (not hyphenated). I'm sure it's probably happened at some point, but I honestly can't think of an example that I've encountered personally.
I think it's so revealing of major cultural attitudes and of how ingrained certain conventions are in society... to realize how incredibly rare it is for a husband to take his wife's name. In fact, I think many men would find the idea insulting or laughable. It does happen once in a while (my parents have friends whose son took his wife's last name in a hyphenated way). But, the fact that the burden is always, or almost always, placed on the woman to have to deal with the pressures about changing names is just really depressing to me.
This convention I think really reveals how ingrained patriarchal traditions are in society still to a large degree.
Why does creating family unity always have to come at the expense of a woman's identity?
why does she feel that her identity will be lost if she changes her name? You are who you are....married, single, whatever your last name. A rose is a rose...
When the day is over (work/gym/dinner) I take a quick shower and go to the cellar where the TV, phone, DVD/VCR, CD player, CDs and DVDs and computer all are. I stay there until bedtime.
:D :D
And when you are asleep, the boogy man lives down there........ :o :o
Oh puhlease.
I killed him a long time ago!
Bet you beat him up with your Yellowstone Ghost Stories book :laugh:
Now, where's an Irish joke when you want one....... :o :o :o
:laugh: On learning my name, an Irishman once said to me, "You know the way the world tells Irish jokes? Well, the Irish tell County Kerry jokes!" True story! :laugh:
Thats funny Kerry.......bet that makes you think twice now, about telling Irish jokes.
I felt a bit "pissed" one time, when I was talking to a Kiwi.(New Zealander).....he said, "you know all those jokes you Aussies tell, about us Kiwis doing it with sheep.........well us Kiwis say the same jokes about you Aussies doing it with kangaroos".....SHOCK HORROR...HOW DARE THEY.... :laugh: :laugh:
There's a lid for every jar! ;) ;D