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Title: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: hardrockposer87 on May 28, 2014, 10:56:10 pm
Hello all,

Not sure if this is in the right place or not, but my grandma Janice (sn: ifyoucantfixit) passed away this evening while in hospice care. She had a lot of battles to fight, and left surrounded by those she loved, and who loved her in return.

I wanted to say thank you to this forum, for giving her such pasion and drive for the past few years. She loved you guys so much and would talk about you always.

Thank you,
Tiffany
Granddaughter of Janice Dodd
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Penthesilea on May 29, 2014, 05:36:22 am
Oh no. :'(

Dear Janice, the little sheep you gave me is still siting on my desk and I'm looking at it right now. We mentioned you in a conversation on FB only yesterday, when we were talking about our big gathering over memorial day in Colorado and Wyoming seven years ago.
I remember that you slipped on the way up on Brokenback and how you refused anybody to help you up. You were determined to make it on your own, and you did! I remember you and me talking while sitting on the mountaintop in the fading evening light. It was a special moment. I liked the way you called some of us 'kiddo' - it was warm and well-meaning and it felt good to be called kiddo with my 46 years.

Rest in peace, Janice. I will miss you.

(http://i575.photobucket.com/albums/ss192/Penthesilea09/Nach%20Neugestaltung%20der%20Website/Janice_zps7767addd.jpg)
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Penthesilea on May 29, 2014, 05:44:35 am
Dear Tiffany,
thank you for thinking of us in the time of your own grief and for letting us know. I am very sorry for your loss and my thoughts and sincere condolences go out to you and your whole family.
Chrissi
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: southendmd on May 29, 2014, 07:53:09 am
Tiffany, so sorry for your loss and thank you for letting us know.

Chrissi, I was thinking of that exact time, on Brokenback, when Janice showed such determination in reaching the summit.  

I think she delighted in the fact that some of her "boys" (I'm particularly thinking of Rich) called her "Mama".
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Sason on May 29, 2014, 08:39:53 am
Another Brokie gone...  :(

Tiffany, my sincere condolences to you and your family, and thank you for letting us know.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Jeff Wrangler on May 29, 2014, 09:33:26 am
Tiffany, I'm so sorry to hear that your grandma has passed away. She and I were in the same vehicle for the one-night "road-trip" to Wyoming in 2007, and I will always remember her kindness, good humor, and common sense, both on that trip and on this forum.

I'm so glad to know that she was surrounded by her loved ones when the time came for her to leave us.

This is very sad news. My heartfelt condolences to you and to all Janice's family and loved ones.

Thank you for letting us know.

Jeff
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Front-Ranger on May 29, 2014, 09:42:44 am
It was our pleasure and honor to know our beloved friend Janice. I carry the little sterling silver horse charm she gave me in a little silk bag in my car for good luck. Even years after we saw each other at the rodeo in San Francisco, she gave me good advice and listened to my sorrows. Thank you, Tiffany. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family and may she rest in peace.  :-*

Mama and Rich are together now...
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: serious crayons on May 29, 2014, 09:54:13 am
Tiffany, I'm so sorry for your loss, and thank you so much for coming here to let us know. That is a really thoughtful thing to do, and I know your grandmother would be grateful.

I have many fond memories of Janice, in person and online. She was a great contributor to this site, a passionate commenter and a very sweet person.

 :'(

Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: southendmd on May 29, 2014, 11:32:20 am
I recall that Janice made our 500,000th post here.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Shakesthecoffecan on May 29, 2014, 01:05:29 pm
The last time I spoke with Janice was on 31 July 2010, the day of Rich's passing, I called to tell her. You see people on facebook and it is like your interacting with them. I had wondered for a year or so now how she was.

I met Janice at that screaming dance club place in San Francisco when we all gathered there in 2007. HerrKaiser had dropped me off after having dinner with him and Essefjoe and his partner. She was taking it all in and holding court. Later that night she and her daughter in law Michelle went with us to Mel's Diner for a late night meal. It was quite hilarious. I think we were all keeping an eye on Rich, who was pa-looted.

Janice was deeply effected by the death of her brother, Weldon Culliton, several years ago now. Brokeback brought her a measure of solace, being able to connect with members of our community helped her understand, gave her a place to discuss the particular kind of grief she felt. She lived a good life. A long and strong one. Her family all over will call her name for many years to come.

The last time I saw her she and Michelle and Lynne, hair plaited, were headed off into the night, back to the real world. We meet in that place suspended above everyday concerns, we live our real lives as best we can.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Shakesthecoffecan on May 29, 2014, 03:38:23 pm
For Janice.

[youtube=425,350]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TtXOMp9JfHY[/youtube]
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Penthesilea on May 29, 2014, 04:11:26 pm
For Janice.


Beautiful. Powerful.


(Sadly the video can't be seen here. Some videos are not to be embedded, so here's the link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TtXOMp9JfHY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TtXOMp9JfHY))
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Mikaela on May 29, 2014, 06:05:39 pm
Tiffany, my condolences to you and your family. My thoughts go out to you.

I never met Janice in person, but I do remember her with gratitude due to her posts here at the forum, and also due to her kind and positive encouragement once I tried my hand at a bit of fiction writing. That meant a lot to me. She was a generous and special person.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: CellarDweller on May 29, 2014, 07:30:12 pm
Tiffany, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I thank you for coming here to let us know.

Janice was my angel at the San Francisco rodeo.  After the first night, we went out for some dancing, and I managed to mess up my knee.  I sat on some steps, with ice on my knee, and Janice stayed there to keep me company, and offered to run back to the bar to get me the occasional drink, and more ice for my knee when it melted.

Rest in peace, darlin'!  You will be missed.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: CellarDweller on May 29, 2014, 07:44:12 pm
(http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g116/CellarDweller115/SF%20Castro%20Bbm/SFCastroBBM055.jpg)

Michelle (IYCFI's daugther in law), IfYouCantFixIt, ShakesTheGround
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: CellarDweller on May 29, 2014, 07:44:56 pm

(http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g116/CellarDweller115/SF%20Castro%20Bbm/SFCastroBBM060.jpg)


DejaVu, Front Ranger, Sashca1007, Sid401K, Michelle, IfYouCantFixIt, ShakesTheGround
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: CellarDweller on May 29, 2014, 07:46:36 pm

(http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g116/CellarDweller115/SF%20Castro%20Bbm/SFCastroBBM086.jpg)


KillersMom, EDelMar, IfYouCantFixIt
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: CellarDweller on May 29, 2014, 07:49:25 pm
(http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g116/CellarDweller115/SF%20Castro%20Bbm/SFCastroBBM102.jpg)


Castro viewing group shot


Sitting in front (showing off his boots) is Pete (PTannen), Janice is behind him, to Pete's right.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Front-Ranger on May 29, 2014, 10:41:13 pm
...We meet in that place suspended above everyday concerns, we live our real lives as best we can.

"There were only the two of them on the mountain, flying in the euphoric bitter air, looking down on the hawk's back and the crawling lights of vehicles on the plain below, suspended above ordinary affairs and distant from tame ranch dogs barking in the dark hours. They believed themselves invisible..."
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Meryl on May 30, 2014, 12:05:43 am
I was so sorry to see the news of Janice's passing just now.  She was one of our beloved elders and a warm, unique voice on this forum.  I never met her in person, but I feel she was a friend.  Thank you, Tiffany, for letting us know of her passing.  We will miss her for sure.

(http://i66.photobucket.com/albums/h269/merylmarie/BBMLinesVisualized/BrokeArseMountain/Scenic/Wyoming2011bySkip.jpg) (http://s66.photobucket.com/user/merylmarie/media/BBMLinesVisualized/BrokeArseMountain/Scenic/Wyoming2011bySkip.jpg.html)
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Shakesthecoffecan on May 30, 2014, 12:17:49 pm

Beautiful. Powerful.


(Sadly the video can't be seen here. Some videos are not to be embedded, so here's the link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TtXOMp9JfHY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TtXOMp9JfHY))

Thank kew!
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: opinionista on May 30, 2014, 12:55:52 pm
I'm very saddened to hear Janice passed away. We were good friends here in Bettermost. My deepest sympathy to Tiffany and her family.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Mandy21 on May 30, 2014, 01:21:02 pm
Dear, sweet Tiffany for thinking of us in your time of sorrow.  I never had the distinct, I would imagine, pleasure of meeting your grandmother, although she invited me out her way several times.  She and I personally discussed many things here on BetterMost, and I would like to share one, from almost exactly two years ago, on May 24, 2012, that she sent to me.  These are her words of encouragement to me when I was going through a severe illness, as she was.  Amazing, stupendous, unbelievable almost, that she put so many others forefront in her mind when she was going through so many unconquerable travails of her own.  She was always, and WILL always, be treasured here, by all of us.

"The truth is you have to make the most of the time you have.  But I have to say one thing.  Stop with the self recriminations.  I am sure that whatever you may have done to ascerbate the situation, it was not done willingly or knowingly.  You were a victim of the lack of knowledge.  You even stop your ability to feel better during the time you have.  When after all, isnt that the real reason for living.  No matter the length, or the lac of lenght that we may have."

Bless your heart, Tiffany, and all of her loved ones.  She was a rare and precious gift to us all.
 
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Sophia on May 30, 2014, 04:01:55 pm
Thank you Janice for all the comments you have given me and many of us here on bettermost. Its been an absolutely pleasure being your friend and brokie. Your comments will always stay with me, especially the one about discusting food its one of my favorites, and your thoughts on movies, Adam Lambert and politics have always got me going. I will miss you enormously.  :)  :-*
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Kelda on May 30, 2014, 04:47:00 pm
Oh Janice, What a terrible loss.

Though we didn't talk every day or even every month, I will miss you, Mama.

You always saw the good in people and wanted to protect and nurture them.

I look forward to coming across your Christmas Cards from across the years in my Christmas boxes come December.


And to Tiffany. Thank you for being so thoughtful as to think of us in a time like this.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Peter John Shields on May 31, 2014, 03:16:56 am
Was so sad to hear this - so sorry for your loss.  Take care.
Title: Re: Thank you for the years of joy you brought to Janice
Post by: Luvlylittlewing on May 31, 2014, 02:08:17 pm
I remember Janice very well, and I've always enjoyed her posts.  Her passing is a loss to all of us.  Tiffany, my thoughts are with you during this difficult time.