I guess the reason the doctors won't do it when women are young is because of the possibility of suing, but is that really something that would stand up in Court? After one is an adult, one should take responsibility for one's own actions, I can't believe that a Court would side with the woman.
Suppose something like a woman regretting getting her tubes tied when she was in her early 20's does come up in court, all that has to happen for the woman to win her case against a doctor is basically for her to testify in front of the judge and maybe a jury and cry and sob and bemoan her inability to have babies and the tragedy of a poor decision made when she was young - and it's all the doctor's fault.
Most companies I've worked for that deal directly with the public all agree that if the issue of children come into any lawsuit, it's always better to settle out of court even if the injured party is clearly in the wrong because no jury will side with the
big mean corporations
big bad doctors
name your demonized organization
Is it any wonder women in society still have a reputation of being indecisive, waffly, emotionally unstable, wanting to please their menfolk and unreasonable?
I'm one of those women who made up my mind when I was 5 years old that I didn't want kids. All these years later, I still don't and for the same reasons. Nothing has changed that, not any man, nor any hormones, nor the plump, diapered bundles of germs (babies) that my friends have had and are currently showing off.
I also knew very early on that I didn't want any kids. When I was a child I used to think I fantacized about having 12 kids but of course what I was really daydreaming about was having 11 siblings, with my parents taking care of us all.
Never regretted it. You can't know for sure when you're in your 20s, but the way I figured it, if I regretted the decision later I'd be the only one suffering. But if I went ahead and had a kid and discovered that my mother was wrong when she said "oh, you'd want a baby once you had it", then what? I know from experience that if you have a child you didn't want, the kid is going to sense that from early childhood on and that's a terrible burden to have to carry.
Interestingly, some of my co-workers ask me if I've ever wanted kids -- very regularly, about once a month or so. And I'm talking about the same people asking the same question. It's like they think if they ask just one more time, they'll get a different answer.