Kerry your list is great, I'm stealing some! I love a bunch of movies that everyone's mentioned, but on top of the ones you mentioned, I love these flicks too:
* Brideshead Revisited - first gay themed movie I ever saw, I was glued to the TV even after the focus shifted the lead character's other relationships.
* Maurice - Another early film, I loved Merchant Ivory's Forster trilogy but this one resonated in a different way for me (Scudder Scudder Scudder Scudder Scudder Scudder Scudder Scudder)
* The Boys In The Band - I saw this way after it was in theaters. Some people find it dated, but I think it's still pretty relevant.
* Priest - Really well done exploration of sexuality and priesthood, and the first time I'd ever seen the heavenly Linus Roach!
* Mambo Italiano - Very charming, a bit like Big Fat Greek Wedding but quirky and with a nice voice of its own.
* Tales of the City - the first chapter of the series was the best for me, made me love San Fran even more than I already do.
* Beautiful Thing - incredibly sweet coming of age story, and looove those sexy South London accents. I saw an off-Broadway version of the play, very fun too.
* Victim - excellent movie from the 60s starring Dirk Bogarde as a married lawyer who fights back against blackmailers. Very ahead of its time.
* Torch Song Trilogy - I saw the play first, it changed my view of what being gay could be. Great adaptation.
* Urbania - very dark, not a typical happy-go-lucky gay film.
* Come Undone - also a dark coming of age story, tres French
* Hedwig and the Angry Inch - really innovative movie musical with a twisted, moving story
* The Mudge Boy - another moody coming of age film, what can I say, I love em.
* In The Blood - saw this in a film festival, nice psychological thriller with a gay twist...coming to Logo soon!
* Parting Glances - another overlooked groundbreaker from 86, Steve Buscemi is in it!
* Brokeback Mountain - little known film about some gay cowpokes
* Notes On A Scandal - Judi Dench vs. Cate Blanchett...to the death!!
I'm sure there are tons of others I can't think of right now, my brain hurts....
Juan