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The stages of grief
« on: May 01, 2008, 10:33:39 pm »
It's been three months now and based on the traffic here, the grief seems to be passing. My own emotion still varies from day-to-day. On the days that I don't have a sad moment, I think "okay, I seem be getting over the tears" and then something will happen and I will be intensely sad once again. I've had two tear free days in a row so once again suspect that the everyday sad moments may be gone. With TDK coming out in a couple of months I'm sure melancholy will move in. I just how much of him we would be getting right now if only...

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #1 on: May 01, 2008, 10:51:42 pm »
It's been three months now and based on the traffic here, the grief seems to be passing. My own emotion still varies from day-to-day. On the days that I don't have a sad moment, I think "okay, I seem be getting over the tears" and then something will happen and I will be intensely sad once again. I've had two tear free days in a row so once again suspect that the everyday sad moments may be gone. With TDK coming out in a couple of months I'm sure melancholy will move in. I just how much of him we would be getting right now if only...

This is the form my grieving mostly takes now.  Passing by magazine stands and wishing I'd see him interviewed, seeing footage of the Tribeca Film Festival and wishing he were there.  It's nice seeing unfamiliar pics of him in the HHH thread, but I can't see them without thinking that his body is no longer here with us.  I don't cry or spend my day moping, but it's an ever present dull ache, nonetheless.

I'm glad you're not crying every day now, Roux. 
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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #2 on: May 02, 2008, 07:05:00 pm »
I think that Heath told us to be happy !!

He certainly was helpful to get us to understand Ennis, the worth of life !!

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #3 on: May 02, 2008, 07:06:47 pm »
Hi. Sorry that I wasn't around long guys.

You know, I can't help it but I still cry every now and again about Heath. I'm still not 'completely' over him. :(
Words can not describe how much I miss and love him so much.

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #4 on: May 02, 2008, 07:09:10 pm »
Merci     Gabreya      !

That is OK... to cry !!

It is also good to remember the good times he presented to us too ??

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #5 on: May 02, 2008, 07:47:21 pm »
 :'( :'(
Thank you, Artiste. Thank you. Oh bless you.

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #6 on: May 02, 2008, 08:16:17 pm »
This is the form my grieving mostly takes now.  Passing by magazine stands and wishing I'd see him interviewed, seeing footage of the Tribeca Film Festival and wishing he were there.  It's nice seeing unfamiliar pics of him in the HHH thread, but I can't see them without thinking that his body is no longer here with us.  I don't cry or spend my day moping, but it's an ever present dull ache, nonetheless.

Meryl! That's exactly how I feel about it! I can look at pictures, but like you say, it is a very strange feeling, to know  :'(  that soon we'll run out of 'new' pictures of Heath... I haven't been able to watch any footage or movie with Heath yet though...

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #7 on: May 03, 2008, 12:19:56 pm »
Thank you Jude.  :-*

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #8 on: May 04, 2008, 08:24:58 pm »
Thank you Jude.  :-*

Y'r'welcome!  :-*

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Re: The stages of grief
« Reply #9 on: May 07, 2008, 07:53:00 am »
Every now and then it just hits me full in the face, that Heath's death is SO NOT right!....

I just had a moment like this again...   :'(  :'(

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