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Offline Brown Eyes

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #10 on: August 11, 2008, 11:01:06 am »
i hate cremation. It disturbs me


but thanks for the picture


Well, as I mentioned above, many members of my Dad's family were cremated.  To me there's something very appealing and peaceful about the idea of having ashes scattered in a favorite place, etc. 

I can see why it might be an upsetting idea to some people.  But, I sort of think that I would like to be cremated too, although I haven't really throught all that much about it for myself personally yet.

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #11 on: August 11, 2008, 12:27:34 pm »
i love the idea of being thrown into the wind

i guess its the whole associations with the Holocaust


stupid, i know
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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #12 on: August 11, 2008, 12:35:14 pm »
Nah I don't think it is stupid, it is something we all have to get our mind around.

I think I would like to just be buried as soon as I am gone with no fanfare.
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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #13 on: August 11, 2008, 02:25:50 pm »
My mom and dad were both cremated.  I like think I might want to be cremated too.   Have my ashes scattered in the mountains and lakes around Lake tahoe where I hiked and camped and worked when I was a kid.  Seems it might be serene.  My sis still lives there and provided she lives longer than me she could scatter my ashes.

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #14 on: August 11, 2008, 04:15:32 pm »
Maybe cremation isn't so bad. Yet it still unnerves me just a little.

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #15 on: August 11, 2008, 04:31:32 pm »
Well, when you really think about it essentially all options are pretty creepy/ unnerving once a person passes away (at least it seems that way to me).

But, people need to plan for what seems the most appropriate/comfortable/important for themselves when it comes to matters such as these grim decisions.




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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #16 on: August 11, 2008, 04:36:42 pm »
It seems like the Ledger family are committed to cremation. He would be the third generation we know of to have been cremated.

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #17 on: August 11, 2008, 04:40:30 pm »
It seems like the Ledger family are committed to cremation. He would be the third generation we know of to have been cremated.

I still can't quite get over the resonance that Heath's cremation has with BBM and the protracted discussions about ashes and scattering ashes in BBM.  It's just uncanny.

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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #18 on: August 11, 2008, 07:15:34 pm »

To me there's something very appealing and peaceful about the idea of having ashes scattered in a favorite place, etc. 


I agree. I want to be cremated, and so does my dad. I think my mom wants to be buried, and I am not so sure of my sister. It just seems better and I would love to be scattered somewhere close to me.
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Re: Heath's Grave
« Reply #19 on: August 11, 2008, 07:47:07 pm »
The fact is, that in the future, I dont think we will have much choice, as land for burials becomes scarcer.

I like the idea of being cremated and having my ashes thrown over a nice peaceful place that was special to me while alive.

I wonder if, like Jack, Heath's ashes were divided with some remaining here in Australia and some being taken back to America for Matilda's sake.

Regardless of where they are, Heath is in the hearts of us all over the world. Whenever I think of him, I think of him riding his horse up that mountain.

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