You know those gazillion on-line quizzes that you can take? Well, apparently there was one making the rounds about "are you gay" -- and all the questions had to do with things like "do you know the names of more than six colors?" My husband ran across it on a message board that he reads, and read me some of the questions. And, you know, I thought the characteristics that got a guy labeled as gay were pretty appealing.
None of the questions asked whether you were attracted to other men or anything like that.
And the quiz bothers me for a couple reasons. First, there's an underlying homophobia... because, OMG, you wouldn't want to be gay or anything.
And second, because it tries to enforce a ridiculously limited stereotype of what it means to be a straight man. (I mean, according to the quiz, straight men don't exercise after age 35. Or know "ROY G. BIV". Or... well, I don't remember the entire list, but I think that being a moderately pleasant human being meant that you couldn't possibly be straight.
Which, if it were true, would really really suck for straight women.)
(Fortunately for me, my husband tested as "obviously gay." Which is good, because I think he's a generally pleasant human being, and I wouldn't want to discover that he's secretly a jerk.)
cmr107 -- you're right. The rules for what women can like or be interested in are much looser than they are for men. (Though they've loosened considerably in my lifetime -- when I was a little girl, I was told to wear a dress to be "lady-like," and told that girls couldn't become astronauts or do math. People still make assumptions about what I'm capable of, but the roles for women are not nearly as rigid as they used to be.) It's too bad that men don't have that kind of freedom. Because I think that, no matter what kinds of biological differences there may be between men and women, there's a lot more natural variation in interests and behaviors than the stereotypes acknowledge. And it would be nice if people could be who they are, rather than the stereotypes they are expected to be.