The "straight" men that gay men come in contact with are undoubtedly more experimental.
I really do not know what you mean by this sentence. Why did you put the word "straight" in quotation marks as though you were using it in a different or ironic way than we usually mean "straight men"? You did not say "gay" men with quotes just following it. Are you saying that gay men only encounter straight men who are sexually adventurous, while really straight men would stay away from us? This is simply not a tenable position to hold. This is perilously close yo your "the penis provides its own lubricant" remarks about gay sex in postings in another place--I think that there you realized you were in no position to know how we did it, and what we needed to do it.
My main point was that men in general behave differently when with other men only, than they do when women are around. I have known a lot of men in my life. I like men; I like to be around them; I like to interact with them; I like to talk to them; I like to work with them; I like to play with them; I like to sleep with them. I am very sensitive to their moods and behaviour. I have spent long periods in all-male environments, and have also seen them in action around women--from casual meetings, to interactions with their girl friends, to visits to whorehouses. I discovered this difference in behaviour in men with, and not-with women when I first began working on a ship when I was 18. I was quite delightfully surprised to learn this. And I was quite delightfully surprised when I caught the eye of Blake, the biggest, toughest man on board. The crew was pretty easygoing, accepting of others, and willing to live and let live. They certainly knew about Blake and me, but no one said a word. Of course they wouldn't say anything to Blake about it. He would have made them "eat the fuckin floor" as Ennis put it to Alma. I had seen Blake do it. He was not a violent person at all, but if someone else started it, he would finish it. They would not have said anything to me because they knew I would tell Blake and it would end up the same way. But no one really cared. And Blake and I were not the only ones. For example, the crew was quite amused--in an accepting and not at all critical way--when two guys were put ashore near the foot of a volcano in the Aleutians to study seismic activity. They went ashore as nodding acquaintances, and returned 30 days later as lovers. For them it was summer on BBM, transferred to Alaska. As Blake once said to me, "There is so little love in the world, you have to get it where you can." He was a wise man, and taught me a lot.
For my whole life I have seen men reacting to one another in a far deeper emotional way than women might suspect--not necessarily ending up in bed, but sometimes yes. With men, I think more than with women, intimacy is not strict straight vs gay, but more a continuum. It runs from always straight through usually straight to the same fuzzied boundary at the gay end of the spectrum. Sadly there is still enough residual homophobia around that guys at the straighter end of the spectrum are not going to tell women about this, I don't care how many conversations you have with them about it.
Amongst gay men a sometimes topic of conversation is stories of encounters, often humourous and quite surprising, with straight men who turn out to be a lot more adventurous than expected. And a lot of gay men, including me, have gotten hit on by straight men, some of the more deluded of which think that merely announcing themselves as up for some fun, that the gay man will go for it. Not true. It is not wishful thinking on the part of gay men. Some people have the misguided idea that all gay men secretly want to hookup with straight men because the latter are somehow more masculine. Neither do we secretly want to, nor do we think that straight men are more masculine. Yawn. This is just not true.
Anyway, about this whole business, too bad women are more puritanical about this. They don't know what they are missing.