Hey everybody. It's been a long time since I spent some time by the campfire here. I wanted to let you all in on something.
I live in California with my partner, Nick. We've been together for two years. Some of you met him at the first Castro theatre screening early in our relationship. I'm sure you all know that gay marriage is legal here now (and in Connecticut too. Woo-hoo!). That might not be the case for long. Proposition 8 would take away our rights by writing discrimination into the California constitution. And thanks to a lot of dishonest campaign ads funded largely by out of state donors, it's pulled ahead in the polls. If you'd like to contribute to the No on 8 campaign, you may do so here.
http://noonprop8.com/homeNick and I were planning on getting married when he was finished with his medical imaging program in the Summer of 2010. However, since there is a chance that we might not be able to do it after Nov. 4th, we're doing it now. We have an appointment to get our license at 1:30 on Oct. 28th and will most likely have a small(!!!) ceremony later that same day. It's not the way we planned it but I can't wait. I wrote to my favorite pastor at Glide church and she said she would be honored to officiate our ceremony.
Back when BBM was in theatres and I was seeing it every 10 days or so, I would often leave with profound thoughts drifting lazily through my head. One night after a viewing, pondering the message of lost opportunities, I thought to myself, "What would I be doing with my life if I knew I were going to die soon?" One response was, "If I were going to die soon, I wouldn't be single."
I saw the movie again and again because it inspired me to love.
On May 21st, 2006, within one of my posts in one of the many threads here, I happened to mention, "I am so meeting my future partner this year." I met Nick 5 days later. I can't imagine that there exists a better match for me. What we have is the relationship I've wanted ever since I found out that relationships like this could exist: honest, courageous, completely devoted. Being with him makes me expand myself as a person. I am so proud and so blessed.
Much love to my entire bettermost family,
Kirk
P.S. We probably will have another ceremony when we meant to have it, to which we will be inviting more friends and family than the few we have in mind for this one. This is really a precautionary ceremony for the legality of it. Not that that diminishes it in any way, I am really excited at the prospect of calling Nick my husband.
