Chris, I'm so sorry to hear this, honey. I have to say I couldn't help but wonder, like others here, if she's suffering from postnatal depression. See, I did. And I went through a period - I shudder to think of it now - of feeling like having my son was the biggest mistake of my life to the point of having suicidal thoughts. You see, your mind is not your own when you suffer from it. Was she excited about her pregnancy and looking as forward to his arrival as you, only to experience a 180 degree turn-around about three days after his birth?
I had to force myself to care for Will, myself - I can't explain why but it was just unbearable - until I thank goodness got some help from my brilliant OB-GYN who picked up on it right away on my six-week follow-up visit. And I was fortunate to get the help early enough that I was able to bond with him shortly thereafter and thoroughly enjoy the first year of his life. Now, I don't know what the heck I was doing with my all my time *before* I had him. He's the light of my life, and he gives me moments of pure, unadulterated, paw-the-white-out-of-the-moon joy every single day.
In any event, I'm really sorry you're going through such an awful time, Chris. My heart goes out to you and Charlie.