I was talking with a friend of mine today, who also saw & loved BBM, and we were talking about someone’s blog that he’d read online. In doing so, the blog topic & our conversation stuck in my mind and I’m curious to what others here think about it.
Basically, the gist of the blog stated that BBM was not a positive movie. Not, 'not good'. Simply, 'not positive'. Not quite seeing the distinction, my friend continued to illustrate his (or rather the blogger’s) point. It wasn’t just because of the incredibly sad ending that made the movie “unpositive”, but rather
why the movie had a sad ending.
The blog went on to say that being gay, Jack & Ennis
got exactly what they deserved. Gays should be killed, if not ostracized and filled with a lifetime of loneliness & despair. The bloggers orientation wasn't mentioned (or known, for all I know), but I have a suspicion which camp the blogger lives in.
After I pushed the bile back down my throat and my dander was lowered, I thought about the blogger's point objectively. After all, he (or she)
is entitled to their opinion. And far be it for me to pass judgment without being fair... Yes, the movie
could be viewed as a clear reason why homosexuality is wrong,
if one was to be so inclined to think this way. However, it wasn’t how I came away from the movie thinking. At first...
When I started to think about it, I could begin to see how BBM could shed a negative, disparaging light on gays. True, I can’t control how people think; close-minded people will think how they want. But if I, a gay man, can come away thinking BBM might be harmful to the gay community, how are many (not all) straight people going to feel? I've read posts from straight men & women who loved this movie; others who venomously detested it. So, does BBM project gays (and to a point, gay love) in a good light or a bad one? If someone were anti-gay, they might cheer, “Awesome! The faggots got what they deserved!", epitomized in Jack's death & and Ennis' despair. And even if they were pro-gay, they might say, “Once again, a movie that makes gays look “bad”.” emphasized in all the shattered lives and the gut-wrenching, unhappy ending. So, I wonder if there is a presiding opinion and/or stance on this, or is it (just like the movie’s intentional, ambiguous scenes) left up to the one’s own viewpoint? Or is it simply, people will think what they want?
Admittedly, I haven’t watched BBM a second time yet. I still have an all too-fresh of an ow-ie on my heart & soul from my first viewing. Oh, I will watch it again, and again, and then again for good measure. And I will ride the emotional rollercoaster afterwards, just like I am now. But I am one of countless who loved what I believe this movie meant to convey; Love. I sincerely believe there are so many lessons people can learn from the characters here (especially from Ennis). And while I disagree 100% with the blogger's comments, the impact of what my friend shared has hit a nerve of sorts with me. So, it's making me think (be warned!
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Thoughts?