I know this isn't exactly the subject of this thread, and apologies for steering it away from that slightly for a minute, but I don't get straight women who are actually put off when they find out an attractive coworker or acquaintance is gay. I feel like saying, "Why is it a problem? Did you think you had a shot?" I think a lot of women, and not just homophobic ones, sort of inject themselves into cute guy's sex lives. Maybe that's just natural and I'm the one who's out there, but I just like to look at them in a purely aesthetic way. Yes, making out with them would be nice, but the fact that they're gay doesn't take away from my enjoyment of their beauty like it seems to in a way for a lot of women.
There is something about your thread, that rubs me the wrong way, and I had to check to see if you are male or female, to see which way, and why, it is rubbing me that way....First I thought it was a male response, someone who was just "anti-female" or something, then on looking again , I see you and me are the same gender and both married, so was wondering about your "slur" on straight women, and their reaction to gay attractive co-workers and friends....
Unless someone is a simple minded homophobic, I am sure, straight women, arent "put off" by it, or think there is a "problem" with it,or event think they "have a shot".... that is my reaction anyway, ....If they like that person, they are merely interested in their life, no hidden agendas....
I find people of all persuations interesting, and I have always felt comfortable talking to gay people, and because I am comfortable, it makes that person comfortable too...some women feel safer taking to gay guys, maybe gay guys feel safer talking to women...I think (no, I know), that women accept gay guys quite readily, withought feeling any adversity to it.
Just going back to what I originally said, that your post "rubbed me the wrong way",I think you are underestimating the openess and trust that gay guys seem to give to straight women,and the role that a lot straight women play in their lives, and you are selling us short, by insinuating that we have hidden agendas.