Sounds like you could use some respite, Del. Does your sister help?
No. As soon as I moved in, she bailed on helping. But it makes sense - why should she drive all the way across town to run errands for my mother - she doesn't live nearby - when I'm living there?
Or Home Helps? To get her snacks etc? Obviously I'm thinking from a UK NHS perspective?
Are their neighbous who may pop in to check on her?
My mother has a nurse that comes every day, but she's not there to do domestic chores. A home helper was coming twice a week, to sweep, mop, change the bed sheets, help her with her baths, wash dishes, etc., but for some unknown reason they cut her back to once a week, and my mother doesn't like the girl anyway.
She says she never does anything right and if the poor girl can't remember
exactly the way my mother wants things, she gets upset with her and wants to report her for bad service.
At one point during her rambling complaints I said, "Mom, is it really that big a deal to move the towel on your bed over two inches? Really?"
She just looked at me and didn't say anything else.
Neighbors do come by, but not very often. It's a big deal for my mother to have to get up and open the door and stressful for her. My mother does not dress nor bathe every day. It's been "too cold" for her. So she spends the day in her gown and sometimes bathrobe. She finds it extremely embarrassing for someone to 'drop by' when she's unprepared and not dressed.
Della, I think you might need more than a solution for the milk problem.
(((Della)))
Alas, the long-term solution is coming and it will not be pleasant.
Thanks though.
