Good comeback to the busybody's first snide comment, Barb! As for her second, about whose fault it was, if I weren't agnostic I would have been tempted to reply, "I don't know -- God's, I guess." Or maybe I'd go with the overly agreeable response: "It would be my fault because, you're right, I am a terrible mother." Or maybe, "Well, I haven't had a chance to teach him proper supermarket behavior yet because I've been busy teaching him something I consider even more important: not to make rude remarks to strangers in public."