Hi Everyone,
I have seen the Oprah BBM show twice, neither time recently. But I remember being so annoyed with her reaction. Didn't she show great astonishment that men like the Ennis and Jack characters could be gay? I think she marvelled something like, "And not a lisp or a swish between them!" That she would perpetuate a stereotype out loud like that was very offensive to me. I agree with what's been said here about how well Heath and Jake and Anne and Michelle handled it.
As for calling them 'the boys,' my only disagreement is over the spelling - I feel much more comfortable with the appropriately proper-nouned Our Boys.
I try to use that appelation for Ennis and Jack only, not Heath and Jake the real people.