No doubt Scott, don't even hope to dream, let him find his own way of living and breathing Brokeback or not as is his want. I don't know of anyone (except maybe Barb and that took time) that has had the pleasure of a friend/family to like BBM on any level resembling ours. We're an unusual breed, special and blessed, but most importantly, we were ready.
I have been fortunate in having a good friend, Melinda, who is just as smitten with BBM and the boys as I am. In fact, she's been on this journey even longer than me, having first met Ennis and Jack in December, whereas I waited till February to pay my first visit. I only regret that I didn't make it to the movie sooner, as it was a while before my friend found others who had engaged with the movie as intensely as she had, and I could have been her BBM confidante and support for longer. I didn't fully understand what she was going through until I had my first viewing, and it hit me so hard, much harder than I could ever have imagined.
Unfortunately, Melinda and I are separated geographically by half a continent, and it can definitely feel lonely at times living so immersed in all things 'Brokeback', while those around you are tending to other things, blithely unaware that the most important film ever made is waiting, just patiently waiting, to be seen and appreciated by them. My little grieving spells, daily in occurrence, are especially hard--I just wish I had a shoulder to cry on sometimes, preferably belonging to someone who understood what I'm going through. I have been crying every day since my first viewing, on February 18th, and I don't know if the tears will ever cease to flow. It's like the movie has opened a wound in my heart that just won't heal--it's fascinating and bewildering all at once. Like Ennis says, there's definitely no reins on this one.
Scott
