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How to contribute to sending flowers/condolences to Australia
Mikaela:
I know there are cultural differences at work so it may not be the same in Australia (or the US) - but here back home it's customary for the family to express where donations may be made in order to honour the interests or wishes of the deceased. (Oh God, that horrible word!) :-\
If that's the same in Australia, then surely the Ledger family may be expected to say something along those lines very soon, especially since they know there are many people around the world who grieve and would like to honour Heath in some way.
Not that I don't think both AIDS research and childrens' charities are entirely deserving of donations, of course, if the family decides not to say anything specific about this topic.
BelAir:
I am not able to keep up with the thread currently, but I just wanted to pop in and say that the announcement as posted on the Bettermost home page is amazing; I like it very much. Thank you all.
Kerry:
--- Quote from: Mikaela on January 31, 2008, 06:29:34 pm ---I know there are cultural differences at work so it may not be the same in Australia (or the US) - but here back home it's customary for the family to express where donations may be made in order to honour the interests or wishes of the deceased. (Oh God, that horrible word!) :-\
If that's the same in Australia, then surely the Ledger family may be expected to say something along those lines very soon, especially since they know there are many people around the world who grieve and would like to honour Heath in some way.
Not that I don't think both AIDS research and childrens' charities are entirely deserving of donations, of course, if the family decides not to say anything specific about this topic.
--- End quote ---
It's an individual thing here in Australia, Mikaela. There are no set rules, per se.
In Australia, if there are any specific considerations, they are usually stated in the formal funeral noticed, placed in the press on the family's behalf, by the funeral directors (undertakers).
So the general rule is that if the funeral notice simply states the date and time of the funeral, it is OK to send flowers to the designated location at the appointed time.
However, if flowers are not wanted, in the funeral notice it will state something like, "Please no flowers," or "Donations to the children's ward at ........ Hospital in lieu of flowers please."
Most people here in Australia wait to read the funeral notice before they make their tribute arrangements.
I'm sure that flowers are sometimes sent to a funeral, even after a family requests that none be sent. On those occasions, it is my understanding that the funeral directors redirect them to a local hospital, for distribution on the wards.
bec:
i just wanted to say that the notice in the paper was absolutely beautiful.
well done to all who made it happen.
this is my first ever post on any type of message board/forum/site, i'm usually the quite one that sits back and reads and never knows what to write. But after reading the post on IMDB ( containing the link to here a site i never new existed), the entire 32 pages of this thred and then with the warm welcome message to new Aussie members. i felt i had to express how moved i was by the way every one came together to show they cared.
xx :)
Shasta542:
Welcome, bec, and thank you for the words about the notice in the paper. Come back and post any time.
I know you and all the people in Australia feel the loss of Heath very deeply too. He was a treasure to all of us, and we will miss him.
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