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Jeff Wrangler:

--- Quote from: garycottle on January 26, 2008, 11:22:03 pm ---I've heard people say that they believe they don't have a right to feel so bad about Heath's death because they aren't family members or close personal friends.  So I'd like to point out that we all have a right to our feelings, even if no one understands them, or even if we ourselves don't understand them.  Don't beat yourself up for feeling bad about another human being's untimely and sudden death.  Avoid adding guilt or shame to your grief.

Some people think that to fall into despair is an indicative of a character flaw.  They think a strong and capable person should be able to cope, and so when they discover they can't cope they view themselves as worthless.  But if you find yourself in that situation you're not worthless.  You're human.  None of us has the world figured out.  So don't hold yourself to some superhuman standard.

Sometimes in our grief we forget there are things to be thankful for.  So it might help to remember when we're so hurt by a loved one's sudden departure, and insulted by the seemingly unjust way in which they were taken from us, that it was a miracle that they were here at all.  So even in our sadness let us be happy that we had a chance to be touched by Heath's humanity.   

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Wise words, Gary!  :)

pgcatz:
SleepyTime tea helps sleeplessness. Also getting away from the computer so you can take a walk or talk to someone. Exercise is good too. And give in to the crying. I always sleep so well after a good cry.

Peter John Shields:
Interesting articles on the impact of Heath on many lives...

http://www.theage.com.au/news/in-depth/a-life-lost-can-be-felt-by-all/2008/01/25/1201157667799.html

http://www.theage.com.au/news/in-depth/didnt-know-you-but-ill-miss-you/2008/01/26/1201157738743.html

http://www.theage.com.au/news/in-depth/heath-worlds-apart/2008/01/26/1201157738746.html

http://www.theage.com.au/news/national/stars-portrait-has-artist-in-a-bind/2008/01/24/1201157560392.html

Peter John Shields:
One more...

http://www.theage.com.au/news/people/hutchences-mother-reaches-out/2008/01/28/1201368992658.html

Ellemeno:
stripey!  Well, look what the wind blew in!  An early Brokie and one of the first BetterMostians.  My condolences to you and all Australians.  Good to see you here. 

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