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Jack's and Ennis' gaydar
serious crayons:
Years ago, I went out to dinner with three other people, two identical twin brothers and their sister. One twin was straight and the other was gay. The gay twin had not come out to his family, but everyone in the family figured he was gay. They were pretty dysfunctional and no one ever talked about it.
So the waiter comes to the table and almost immediately starts openly flirting with the gay twin. The flirting continued throughout dinner, and was so extreme that we all remarked on it. The twin got very uncomfortable because he was being so obviously being singled out (from his identical twin, yet!), and didn't want his siblings to guess why, though everybody at the table knew.
That was the most amazing demonstration of gaydar I've seen.
LauraGigs:
OMG Katherine, what a great story!
Sounds like that waiter would be a good Rent-A-Gaydar too!
brokebackjack:
I don't believe gaydar is an urban myth at all.
Jack and Randall KNEW, it was completely obvious.
I know many many guys who can look around a room and say, gay, gay, gay, straight, straight, straight, closeted, gay, straight...etc.
They are almost universally correct. Me, I can pick up on the vibe. Sometimes it takes speaking with someone a bit--there is a cowboy with manure on his boots out here [lol], the real deal. Nobody would ever think was gay unless he told you, yet I picked it up the second we said hello in the Wyoming pasture where he was feeding cattle. It's a 'vibe'.
Perhaps Scott is right--the sex drive has us pick up potential mates. It's quite possible, which would explain gaydar logically. We pick up on the 'mating ability' roflmao.
I'm wondering if that might be it because I'm bi and have had this talent where I could tell instantly if a woman was menstruating. I never looked for or developed such a talent it was and is simply THERE. I had a friend who could do the same thing, and yes, we sometimes DID ask if we knew the girl would not get offended. We were never wrong. By the way, he was completely straight and the most successfull 'stud' I have ever known lol.
The guy I fell in love with, the first time we set eyes on each other it was a mutual HOLLLY SHEEEIIT!!! moment if there ever was one. I knew there was something there even though nobody else did. He knew there was something in me. neither of us thought the other gay. After shaking hands--there was literally a static charge, a visible spark! -- I knew he wasn't gay at all but wondered if he was bi or might possibly be deeply closeted. He wondered the same. He turned around, not a word, and I KNEW he was bi. Vice-versa held true as well.
We just knew.
That potential mate idea of Scott's may well be it. Any thoughts?
nic:
Could be something to do with pheromones given off? Some people can more consciously translate detection of them into what they mean? I've never heard of gay/straight/bi people giving off different pheromones though, only different genders. :-\
Btw, fascinating to hear views & experiences even if we can't work it out!
serious crayons:
--- Quote from: nic on April 27, 2007, 12:10:20 pm ---Could be something to do with pheromones given off? Some people can more consciously translate detection of them into what they mean? I've never heard of gay/straight/bi people giving off different pheromones though, only different genders. :-\
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I think that makes a lot of sense. Body chemistry is complicated. If pheromones do indicate sexual orientation, researchers probably just haven't figured it out yet.
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