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Clyde-B:
--- Quote from: opinionista on December 11, 2008, 02:49:20 pm ---The father's is the one used. When you have a kid, he/she gets to have the dad's first last name and the moms first last name. First the father's then the mothers. (In a gay relationship I guess they need to decide whose last names goes first).There are people whose father has a very common last name while their mother's is rare, so they'd rather go by their moms. And what they do is they use an initial for their first last name as it were a middle name, and write the second last name. Supposing Speedy Gonzalez full name is Speedy Gonzalez Riojano and he likes Riojano better because is more rare, so he goes by Speedy G. Riojano. I have many friends who do that. I could too. My dad's last name is very very very common while my mom's is very rare, but I use both.
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Thank you for the clarification! I was wondering how that worked ever since you mentioned it.
Brown Eyes:
I guess the one fundamental aspect of the unfairness here, as del and others have suggested, is that the pressure to deal with the name issue falls on the woman and usually only on the woman.
The fact that men are so unwilling to change their names really speaks to something pretty deeply and ideologically ingrained in many western cultures (and certainly the U.S. predominantly).
belbbmfan:
I was wondering if the practise of changing your name after marriage has changed at all in light of the divorce rate that is much higher than it used to be. I mean, it isn't very practical when you think of it.
opinionista:
--- Quote from: belbbmfan on December 11, 2008, 03:01:46 pm ---I was wondering if the practise of changing your name after marriage has changed at all in light of the divorce rate that is much higher than it used to be. I mean, it isn't very practical when you think of it.
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I believe Jake Gyllenhaal's mom kept her first husband's last name after divorcing him. After she married Stephen Gyllenhaal she went by Naomi Foner Gyllenhaal. I don't recall if she used a dash between the surnames, though.
serious crayons:
The thing I hate the most is when even the wife's first name gets left out. As in, "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" or even just "Mrs. John Doe." Oh, that's horrible.
My stepmom established her career during her first marriage, in the '60s. So when she got divorced, she kept that married name. Then when she married my dad, she kept the name of her first husband. Kind of unusual, but practical. She's all about practicality (a phrase I mentioned yesterday I dislike, but in this case it really applies).
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