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Gay Detecting Radar
Katie77:
I recently sent in a line to "The person below me" thread, asking, if people looked at men now and wondered if they are gay...and the answer refered to gay radar.....
I am straight, but I occassionally look at a guy, and think that he is gay, and most of the time I am right, although i have been wrong on a few occassions too....by the way, it is not a common pastime of mine, but I do do it....
I'm interested now, in this gay "radar", that many people seem to have, and would be interested in hearing from both gay and straight readers here, how their radar works, and what things they zero in on, to assume someone is gay.....or straight, whichever way they work.
I dont mean to offend anyone, just thought it might be a bit humourous, and also, I have told a few gay male friends who are in the closet, that people around them, probably all ready suspect they are gay, so I am interested to hear what others have to say on this.
YaadPyar:
I seem to instinctively know. Always did. The first person I came out to never had told me she was a lesbian. I just knew. I later realized my coming out was very premature as I'm not myself gay, but I knew about her and her girlfriend, and everyone else I've met mostly, male and female. Just a sense. Don't know why...
But I don't much try to figure it out. Just happens. Just some sense. But I don't get the same sense from folks who are just playing/trying it out. Not very helpful/intersting, I guess.
SFEnnisSF:
After having lived in The Castro, where everybody is gay, my radar don't work no more. There's a certain 'look' that gay men have in SF, that tells them apart from the straight men living in SF. The straight men who have 'the look' just simply do not live in SF. I don't know why. So now that I live outside of SF, I see many men with 'the look', and they're all straight. Like I said, my radar don't work no more.... LOL. :laugh:
Daniel:
--- Quote from: Katie77 on July 18, 2006, 09:39:15 pm ---I recently sent in a line to "The person below me" thread, asking, if people looked at men now and wondered if they are gay...and the answer refered to gay radar.....
I am straight, but I occassionally look at a guy, and think that he is gay, and most of the time I am right, although i have been wrong on a few occassions too....by the way, it is not a common pastime of mine, but I do do it....
I'm interested now, in this gay "radar", that many people seem to have, and would be interested in hearing from both gay and straight readers here, how their radar works, and what things they zero in on, to assume someone is gay.....or straight, whichever way they work.
I dont mean to offend anyone, just thought it might be a bit humourous, and also, I have told a few gay male friends who are in the closet, that people around them, probably all ready suspect they are gay, so I am interested to hear what others have to say on this.
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I am also kind of interested in this phenomenon from an anthropological perspective...
Did you know that in Ireland there is a similar phenomenon where people can tell if a person is catholic or protestant...
vkm91941:
I've always thought it was just a matter of being observant but as time goes on I do think there is an element of intuition involved as well. Like Celeste, I have always been able to tell, even as a child. At the age of 6, I innocently outted my 25 year old cousin blurting out to all an sundry at a large family gathering to: " leave Paul alone he doesn't like girls" when my Aunts were badgering him about when was he going to get married.
My gay friends tell me my gaydar is better than theirs. WHY? Who knows. ???
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