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A Ninth Viewing Observation
welliwont:
When I wrote in shorthand “get over it” I did not mean to say that Ennis should be able to dismiss his feelings about the Earl tragedy. We all have feelings and hurts that we hold in our soul, that stay with us all our lives. I know that. I meant “get over it and *live*, man, don’t let Earl’s murder cause you to roll up like a caterpillar for the rest of your f’n life!”
I guess that was only implied...
J
dly64:
--- Quote from: JakeTwist on August 08, 2006, 02:47:21 pm ---When I wrote in shorthand “get over it” I did not mean to say that Ennis should be able to dismiss his feelings about the Earl tragedy. We all have feelings and hurts that we hold in our soul, that stay with us all our lives. I know that. I meant “get over it and *live*, man, don’t let Earl’s murder cause you to roll up like a caterpillar for the rest of your f’n life!”
I guess that was only implied...
J
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I see what you are saying. However, that is where Ennis’ homophobia comes into play. Ennis’ inability to allow himself to acknowledge that he loved a man (until it was too late) is because he was taught that homosexuality was something to be despised. It wasn’t only Ennis’ father that showed disdain for gays, but society as a whole. That is why Ennis would have never been able to publicly proclaim his love for Jack. Ennis was taught to hate his feelings. Ennis’ father, who certainly would not have gotten the “father of the year” award, was someone Ennis looked up to. In Ennis’ mind, not only was being gay something to be abhorred, but it was also dangerous. When Jack was killed (i.e. in Ennis’ version of Jack being murdered), it only reinforced Ennis’ belief that homosexuality made Jack a target of hatred.
Sometimes fear can be paralyzing. In Ennis’ case, this proved to be true. The only time Ennis could be free to express himself was on BBM. Once that cocoon disappeared, so did Ennis’ freedom from repression.
--- Quote from: Momof2 on August 08, 2006, 02:10:01 pm ---I want better and different for my children. Sometimes I do not think I do that good of a job. It is not because I do not want to. It is just hard to get over some things. If you have never lived through something like that it is really hard to understand. Ennis I think wanted better for his children. When he ask Jr. if Kurt loves her. I think then he realizes that if you have someone who truly loves you then you have to be with them. Regrets of course. Selfish no.
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I am terribly sorry to hear about your traumatic childhood. It sounds like you do have some support around you … that’s always good. Understandably, the scars are always going to be there. Thanks for sharing your story.
I agree that Ennis wanted something better for Junior. Ennis understood what he could have had and how it took him nearly 20 years to acknowledge that the love of his life was Jack. And, for the first time (in the trailer with Jr.), Ennis realized how his actions impacted and hurt those he loved.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: Front-Ranger on August 08, 2006, 02:00:09 pm ---I wonder how many viewings the original poster of this thread has had now??
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Thirteen. Seven on big screens and six on small ones. But who's counting? ;)
I find it hard to believe I've only seen it four more times since I started this thread back in April, but alas, it's true. Two were in San Francisco in June (*g*) and one of the others was just a week ago Friday when my two BBM virgin girlfriends came over to watch it. To follow up on my last report where that's concerned, one of the two now says she liked it so much and can't stop thinking about it that she's going to rent it and watch it with her husband, who hasn't seen it yet. The other one just keeps saying, "Yes, I really did enjoy the film. But then, I wouldn't tell you if I didn't." Is it just me, or does anyone else want me to smack her?
Brown Eyes:
Yeah, so what in the hell ever did happen to poor ol' Randall? Didn't this thread start out being about Randall....
??? ;)
2robots4u:
Yes, Barbara. Once for each of us who says "yes"...Doug
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