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JT:
Scott, that is so cool! I can't remember if I ever had a Brokeback dream yet or not, but I dreamt about the actors before.
Momof2:
I think many people lack hugging even touching in general. In today's world we hardly get to hug or touch another person, especially men. So I think hugging is very therapeutic in many ways. Jack and Ennis definately lacks touching, so when they touch, sparks seem to fly. They seem so at peace when they can freely touch or hug each other. It's wonderful to have this cyber group hug. lol
I am a very affectionate person. I do have to be careful sometimes. Some people do not like to be touched. I think that is so sad. To me there is nothing more comforting and loving than a gentle pat or hand on your arm. My son calls them "love pats". One of the only men that works for me just found out his wife has cancer. While talking to me he was crying. I just automatically hugged him. I thought "Oh, God what have I done." Well, he must have really needed it because he got me in a "hug lock" as my son says. He said, I know I am a man and not supposed to show emotion. I said, Oh, bull. You are a husband that loves his wife and are devastated. You have every right to cry and I have a million more hugs were those came from. I am glad that God gave me love to share and a heart that is happy and always willing to love. I hug my children so much. I want them, especially my son to know it is okay to show your love and compassion for anyone.
JT:
--- Quote from: Momof2 on October 03, 2006, 05:14:47 pm ---I think many people lack hugging even touching in general. In today's world we hardly get to hug or touch another person, especially men. So I think hugging is very therapeutic in many ways. Jack and Ennis definately lacks touching, so when they touch, sparks seem to fly. They seem so at peace when they can freely touch or hug each other. It's wonderful to have this cyber group hug. lol
I am a very affectionate person. I do have to be careful sometimes. Some people do not like to be touched. I think that is so sad. To me there is nothing more comforting and loving than a gentle pat or hand on your arm. My son calls them "love pats". One of the only men that works for me just found out his wife has cancer. While talking to me he was crying. I just automatically hugged him. I thought "Oh, God what have I done." Well, he must have really needed it because he got me in a "hug lock" as my son says. He said, I know I am a man and not supposed to show emotion. I said, Oh, bull. You are a husband that loves his wife and are devastated. You have every right to cry and I have a million more hugs were those came from. I am glad that God gave me love to share and a heart that is happy and always willing to love. I hug my children so much. I want them, especially my son to know it is okay to show your love and compassion for anyone.
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You're absolutely right about that. Very good point. It's no wonder we all lack hugging because some people see it as sexual harassment and some just don't like it period. Some people would cry "sexual harassment" when you just pat them on the shoulder. That is why I only hug people that are very close to me and never at work unless they start hugging first. I'm glad you're able to comfort him.
Front-Ranger:
Two of my absolute favorite wordless moments in the movie are when Ennis embraces Jack in a hearty hug. THe first is in the reunion scene, natch, and the second is in the post-divorce scene. The sound effects--the whump--when they come together and the sheer magnetism of the two men are breathtaking!
silkncense:
Couldn't agree more, Frontranger! They show such pure joy in just seeing each other. I love seeing people hug. In many cultures it is automatic but not so much in the US - God forbid most men should hug. What a shame. At least they are moving forward with the handshake / shoulder bump / backslap kinda thing. Come to think of it, I was rather raised that way - not a very huggy family but I make a point of hugging my sons lots!
When I met up w/ other Brokies in SF - I'd barely said "LJ" when Eric had me in a big bear hug. Then hugs from all the rest. How warm & welcoming. The best sort of greeting.
And, studies have shown that babies don't thrive without hugs, holding & touching. I wonder that humans in general suffer the same without it.
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