It's OK to have dreams. It's also OK that some are out of reach and won't come true. I don't get it when people say "Oh, when you stop dreaming" - and give in to reality I suppose - that you're just "giving up on life". Honestly, do people realize what they're saying? I explain to my friends how I need to give up on a dream of mine to go away so I can stay near my mother who is in her last days with cancer and I'm lambasted as a quitter for giving up on my dreams!
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So, it's OK to dream about Wyoming but to think logically about moving there, Jeff. I have multiple fantasies and dreams about moving abroad, etc. But like you, reality sets in pretty quick. I have limited job skills, at this time in my life my family needs me near, due to family genetics, health insurance is of extreme importance and despite what others say, I've seen what happens when you don't have these things and that trumps dreams pretty quick.
true, it is called being an adult and caring about your family. I think one thing that people dont' realize is that 'dreaming' doesnt' HAVE to mean packing up your stuff in the trunk and heading out tomorrow.
To me the idea of keeping your dreams alive is keep looking to the future and having goals that can be reached long term and short term....using Del's example, wanting to live abroad...it is not reasonable for most people with real jobs and families to just go 'spur of the moment'...but you can read books, watch travelogues, correspond with people from abroad, and travel. You are still dreaming, still reaching out.
To me that is what is important...the keeping actively looking forward. I dont' think I would feel good about myself at all if I just got up from this computer, got in the car and drove off to be a world traveler...nor do I think it would happen just because I 'decided' to. I have a job where people depend on me. I have animals that I love and need me....I have a husband that cares very deeply for me and who would starve if I wasnt' there to put a plate in front of him
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It just isn't in me to be so selfish as to think that I can do just whatever I please, damn the consequences to everyone else.
added to: Where am I supposed to get the money to do all these things I want to do? Reality is that the airline won't let me GO to Europe without some form of payment. I am pretty sure I won't find many places where I can stay free and I sure think sleeping in the alley would ruin the dream thing...
yep, they dont' call it the cold hard facts for nothing...
anyone remember the story of the ant and the grasshopper??
lets revisit this in a couple of years...
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(after the credit card bills have really hit)