Bonjour mes amis!
Welcome Moia! Good on you for de-lurking!
I don't think it is from the perspective of being with a guy as being second best...at least, I never thought of it that way. I always took it to mean that a good looking man was out of circulation (for the woman).
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That's how I see it too! It is just an expression to the effect of: A gay man is not available to date a woman, nor is he interested, hence from the woman's perspective, it is a waste because she can never have him.
I personally don't think that all the good men are married or gay, but that is just my opinion!
I wonder if straight guys think that all the good women are married or lesbians? If so, does it bother them?
Wait, alot of straight men 'fantasize' about lesbians .. so never mind .. lol