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*Slightly* OT Confessions: How Much is TOO MUCH Before You'd QUIT Someone?

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rtprod:
Any stories to share?  Thought this could get lively and fun to talk about...

rt

FuzzyChanny:
I have spent "too much" on someone. Granted, it was not 20 years like Jack and Ennis, but seeing as how I was merely in love with the person (good friend, no relationship) and he never did anything to pursue it, I should have realised 6 months was enough, as oppossed to 2 years (plus 1 year of healing). He also wasn't very nice to me (he once, though not directly, told me I was too fat for him). Should have cut it all and run.

I hate posting this first, cos I'm pretty certain everyone else will have far worse stories.

rtprod:
Fuzzy, thanks for sharing your story.  They may have far worse stories, but you have by far the best avatar, and that counts for something.  lol

Also, I should say "too much" meaning:

Emotionally?

Financially?

Logistically?

What was the cost to you? 

rt

MaineWriter:
This is hard for me to answer....I know I broke more than few hearts. I usually got out before the gettin' got tough...

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xo

vkm91941:
Well I didn't waste 20 years on someone...but I did waste 3 dating , 6 months in counseling and then 1 year greiving.. plus lots of financial support, emotional support and travel time.   The first year or so was really good and I fell in love, but half way through the second he reconnected with his old girlfirend and her husband and use to go there to discuss our relationship with her....should have been my first clue something was very wrong...then she started finding more suitable women to introduce him to and he would go to dinners., and picnics and charity affairs to meet them "just so I don't hurt her feelings"  HEY what about my feelings...but still I stayed, it took me going into the hospital for emergency surgery and him never coming near me for 7 days to open my eyes.  When I got out of the hopsital I went and moved all my things out of his house and back to my condo.  While doing that I found lots of silent evidence that another woman had been staying there recently and one even called while I was there and left a message.  

He called me for days and cried and beggged, said he love me that we should go to counseling together. Fool that I am I agreed to go  but after 3 sessions where it came out that he didn't just havea couple of girl friends he had a boyfriend too, after 6 sessions  the counselor advised me to run....that he had a lot of issues to work out and he was going to drag down anyone who became involved with him.  I met my husband 2 years later in a cooking class and it was electric and I remember thinking OH so this is what all the fuss is about!  and I could have wasted it.

I saw him not too long ago, he's 55 now, looks older, has lost his trim physique and is still chasing young women and even younger boys.  All the while trying to present this facade to his family.  Sad really but I feel so lucky to have escaped because I really did love who he seemed to be that first year or so and would have married him.  

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