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Dealing With Aging Parents
Artiste:
Thanks susie, thanks delalluvia!!
--- Quote --- I don't think I am equipped to.
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I did not think so neither, and I learn everyday, since we take turns Mother and I being sick. And one of my brothers, we can telephone him anytime and he comes to help, so helpful and quiet he is, that he calms us down and we all become happy again!!! At least, he visits weekly. We give him chores, like fix electricity, he learned that from father; he fixed often water taps, etc; boy, we sure save money with him and we loved him dearly for all his wondrous helps and encouragements. Glad that you are with your mother; maybe your father will become closer by fixing things?
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--- Quote --- makes me wonder if that's how I really want to end up.
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Moi aussi, me too!! However, that is one reason among many that we can and must keep ourselves healthy, right??
How??
Hugs, hugs!!
optom3:
--- Quote from: delalluvia on March 11, 2008, 08:48:32 pm ---Very true Artist, we all want longer lives, but only if we're in excellent shape and able to continue to be independent. Seeing how my dad and now my mom have become so decrepit and chronically ill, makes me wonder if that's how I really want to end up.
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I really hope I have inherited my fathers genes.He is fit as a fidle and looks 10 years younger than he is.He is realy my mothers care giver,so I also hope he outlasts her.
I had a terrible argument with my brother before we moved here.I have helped with my mother for the past 15 years.She is not only incapacitated,but has become very unpleasant with it,particularly towards me.
Sometimes I think my dad must really love her to put up with it.Anyway,my brother was aking who was going to help if dad became ill.I pointed out that after 20 years of living in Japan and leaving it all to me,perhaps it could be his turn.Also his work is all on a computer so totaly portble.Not only that his wife and child live in India(messy) so he travels a lot anyway.Our business is not portable and we have 3 kids who live with us.
He thought I was unreasonable and should stay in England and continue as before.
FAMILIES YOU CAN'T PICK THEM!!!!!!
Artiste:
Thanks optoms!
Very true, that families are there, at times!
Just wishing not so far away! Miles!!
And heart away too sometimes!
So, guess it is important to reknew friendships with family!! Forever!!
Hugs to you! Do your kids, you and husband have a dog? Here is mother's, entering from to-day's snow having melted on him!!
optom3:
--- Quote from: Artiste on March 11, 2008, 10:46:33 pm ---Thanks optoms!
Very true, that families are there, at times!
Just wishing not so far away! Miles!!
And heart away too sometimes!
So, guess it is important to reknew friendships with family!! Forever!!
Hugs to you! Do your kids, you and husband have a dog? Here is mother's, entering from to-day's snow having melted on him!!
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Yes we do a golden retriever and mini maltese.Like little and large.The retriever gives the maltese rides on her back,so cute,she even lets her swing on her tail.An amazingly beautiful tempered and patient dog.The maltese is just cute.We also have 2 cats,so its quite a full house!!!!!
I would hate a house without animals.or for that matter flowers,although its an uphill struggle trying to stop the cats eating the flowers,don't ask me why!!!!
delalluvia:
I don't know how we can stay healthy, Artiste.
My mother was very healthy and active up until recently, but then things happened to her that were out of her control.
She's been living with cancer ever since I was young. Due to all the chemotherapy she's taken over the years, her heart has become weak and has started leaking. Then, surprising all of us, like an internal hernia, the muscle of her diaphragm slipped out of place and is pressing against her left lung limiting her intake of air.
So now, she can no longer exercise to keep strong due to her weakened heart, nor could she if she tried due to her restricted lung capacity. So she's becoming weaker and weaker. A couple of years ago the woman was mowing her own lawn, today, she can barely walk from one room to another without getting out of breath and dizzy. It is difficult for her to even get out of her walker/chair. She often doesn't make it to the toilet on time. :( :( :(
None of what has sapped her strength and her quality of life is something she could control.
It grieves me to watch her frustration with herself and her lack of independence and it terrifies me that I'll end up like her.
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