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What do you think of Spanking?
ifyoucantfixit:
Well I dont like to pull the age and experience thing here, but some children demand more than simple time outs, and revoking of priviledges. They get out of hand, as the terminology goes. There is lots and lots of gang and other types of behavior being vented on others and society, primarily from children that have never been taught the perimeters of behavior, and acceptance.
I have raised four of my own, and ten grandchildren, and helped friends and relatives with countless others. I have meted out very very little corporal punishment in my time. I have slapped the mouth as Dottie mentioned, and that is very effective also for an upstart mouth that only gets worse as time goes by, if left unabaited. I have spanked, (not beaten) on rare occasion, when the threats no longer held the hoped for effect.
But i am more than well aware there are some kids that need a spanking from time to time, or those that have never had one that society in general would have benefitted from them having. Its a narrow street to walk, but a necessary one I feel...I dont believe its child abuse. I think to allow a child to be a terror is just as much an abuse. lots of kids never need it at all. Others however do...IMHO
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: Nutmeg Guy on August 06, 2007, 08:19:55 am ---I voted "for" spanking. Too many kids today are out of control. Part of the beauty of the spanking is just the threat of one. My Mom would say :" You'd better behave or your father will spank you when he gets home". That was usually enough of a threat t oget us to behave. LOL
And I have no memory of ever being spanked!
--- End quote ---
Ditto. I agree it should be a parental option. It has its drawbacks like any technique (e.g. as a loner child, timeouts would have meant nothing to me. Sit in my room? Sure, I'll read, color, write stories. Where's the punishment?). Spankings work on some kids and not on others. It sure worked on me. I have memories of being spanked, but it was never in anger and only happened 3 times.
I was a fast learner. ;D
Like nut, after that, it was just the threat that kept us in line.
dot-matrix:
WOW we've had 136 views of this poll but only 11 votes. Interesting. Well I thought y'all might like to see the results of the same poll, held on another website. This one had 5038 respondents and like ours invited both parents and non parents to vote.
Child abuse, plain and simple: 0.7% 36 votes
Not abuse but should be outlawed by the government: 0.4% 20 votes
A parental choice with benefits and drawbacks: 70.1% 3532 votes
A good strategy for instilling discipline: 28.5% 1435 votes
No opinion 0.3% 15 votes
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Total Votes: 5038
In another seperate Poll on the same site, this one labled just for parents, it finds that 43% of parents responding find spanking an effective and acceptable form of punishment.
ifyoucantfixit:
That Dottie seems to be the norm around here. Like selling a house. Lots of lookers, and no
buyers.. I had over 160 people look at my campaign issues poll..only seven people voted...I dont know if
some people dont care about the heavy issues, or if they dont want others to know their opinion for
whatever reason...
injest:
Well the problem is that spanking is not black or white. I mean...there are graduations....for example, your toddler is trying to pull something over on top of himself so you say "NO!" and pop that diaper enough to startle him....teaches him that "NO!" means stop and look at mom. Taking a board and leaving bruises...that is child abuse. Spanking a small child with your hand or switch in the privacy of your home is vastly different than slamming a preteen to the floor of a public store and slapping him, yelling "Who the Hell do you think you are?" until he cries out "Nothing! I am nothing! I am nobody".
I believe popping a diaper with an open hand is ok. I think spanking in private is ok.
other than that no. I don't.
and I don't want anyone else spanking my child. I remember a teacher in fifth grade that would assign twenty questions a night as homework. She would paddle you for every question you got wrong. I only got that paddle once...but I still remember her rubbing that paddle over my behind and the utter humiliation I felt. One boy couldn't take it and jumped up and ran away one day. We never saw him again. I think she did it because of some sick enjoyment...not to help us.
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