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Lynne:
This is probably only marginally relevant, but I don't feel single anymore. After about fifteen years of casual dating and not even looking for a real partner, the mindset was that I found love once - so what were the chances? Besides, I work very well on my own.
Now that has changed. I love my ex-husband dearly, but I never knew things could be as good as they are now. Frankly, I'm scared spitless that I will mess this up.
I find I'm consulting him before Brokie trips - not for permission, but just because I want him with me if possible.
This is the first time ever I can envision growing old with someone. Not anytime soon of course. ;)
I don't know what my point is, except that everything has changed and I am thrown by it. I'm not sure I know how to be part of a couple anymore logistically, except of course the basics - mutual respect and love and consideration.
Penthesilea:
--- Quote from: CellarDweller on January 17, 2010, 11:08:27 pm ---And the search continues......
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Like your attitude! :)
Here are some more to try:
Even if they don't turn out to be a prince, at least they're yummy. And one never knows ....
;)
Penthesilea:
--- Quote from: Lynne on January 18, 2010, 12:41:13 pm ---This is probably only marginally relevant, but I don't feel single anymore. After about fifteen years of casual dating and not even looking for a real partner, the mindset being that I found love once, so what are the chances? Besides, I work very well on my own.
Now that has changed. I love my ex husband dearly, but I never knew things could be this good. Frankly, I'm scared spitless that I will mess this up.
I find I'm consulting him before Brokie trips - not for permission, but just because I want him with me.
This is the first time ever I can envision growing old with someone. Not anytime soon of course.
I don't know what my point is, except that everything has changed and I am thrown by it. I'm not sure I know how to be part of a couple anymore logistically, except of course the basics - mutual respect and love and consideration.
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You and your ex-husband ....... ?
You happy?
I hope so!
:-*
Lynne:
--- Quote from: Penthesilea on January 18, 2010, 01:07:25 pm ---
You and your ex-husband ....... ?
You happy?
I hope so!
:-*
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I'm sorry, Chrissi - I wasn't clear - which is what happens when I try to make long posts from my phone.
No, my ex-husband is happily remarried, a father, and living in the SF Bay area. We had a great marriage and we're still on good terms, friendly.
It's impossible not to compare this new relationship to the old one, although I realize it's not completely fair- that was a different time and place and circumstance - but on so many ways it is better. I have never felt this chrerished, loved, adored even, protected. And yes, I've never been happier.
The big BUT tho is that many of the issues involved in my divorce remain unresolved - primarily my commitments to my family of origin. I'm scared that history might repeat itself. I hope I'm older and wiser. And my new guy didn't come from Greenwich, Connecticut and the luxury and wealth that comes with that...we are better matched socio-economically. He's from an immigrant family with a solid work ethic - and he and most of his siblings are brilliant and successful.
Front-Ranger:
--- Quote from: Lynne on January 18, 2010, 12:41:13 pm ---This is probably only marginally relevant, but I don't feel single anymore. After about fifteen years of casual dating and not even looking for a real partner, the mindset was that I found love once - so what were the chances? Besides, I work very well on my own.
Now that has changed. ...
I find I'm consulting him before Brokie trips - not for permission, but just because I want him with me if possible.
This is the first time ever I can envision growing old with someone. Not anytime soon of course. ;)
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Yee-haw, friend!! :D :D :D
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