Cellar Scribblings

[CellarDweller]

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Heya Chuck!
It's been a while since I stopped by with some red velvet cupcakes!  So, here ya go!

And, I hear they're especially fond of red velvet cake down South in places like Georgia.  Did you have any while you were there?

YUMMY YUMMY YUMMY !!!!!

*takes only one cupcake, and leaves the rest for any guests who should stop by*

Hiya Amanda!  *waves* thanks for the cupcakes!

No, I didn't get any red velvet cake in Georgia.  Maybe next time!

[optom3]

I will take one of those cakes if that is O.K.  One of them was definitely smiling at me. I know a come on when I see one !!!

Hope masses of people turn up at the weekend for prop 8. Its about time the world opened its eyes.

I can't believe, when so much is so truly horrific at the moment, from the economy to the wars, that people cannot get their heads round love and commitment.

A bit more love and a little less greed and prejudice,and this world might stand a chance.

I don't care much for the Beatles, but "all you need is love" is a sentiment that is hard to ignore.IMHO.

[CellarDweller]

*waves to Fiona*

Hello Fiona!

Of course it's ok to take a cupcake!  They're here for everyone!

I hope it's a big turn out as well on Saturday!

[optom3]

*waves to Fiona*

Hello Fiona!

Of course it's ok to take a cupcake!  They're here for everyone!

I hope it's a big turn out as well on Saturday!

Waves back. Yummy cake by the way.

Wouldn't it be just such a boost at the moment, if people power really could make a difference. I would love to think that it could be like the butterfly effect.One pro gay marriage person, converts another, who converts 2 etc etc.

I so would like to be part of a generation who really did make a difference. Who really opened peoples eyes and made them see, that it is so much easier to love than hate, and really does take less muscles to smile in approval than frown in judgement.

We could all do with a bit of the feel good factor at the moment.

[CellarDweller]

I've had something on my mind since Halloween night.  Haven't mentioned it to anyone, but maybe it's time to get it off my chest, only so I can get some other opinions on the matter.

I've often said that I try not to hold a grudge.  It's better to get something out of your system, find a way to make peace with it, if possible, and move on.  Not let it consume your thoughts and life.

but sometimes, you get tossed a curve ball.

I have mentioned previously that I took a lot of abuse at one of my past job locations.  I can still see the homophobic graffiti they wrote about me on the men's and women's room walls of the store.  Verbal abuse took place out of earshot of management.

It was Halloween night, and I was invited to a friend's house.  The hostess had invited a group of people, some I knew, some I didn't.  I was talking to some people when the doorbell rang, and a man walked in.  The hostess introduced him to everyone, and conversation resumed.

About 15 minutes later, the hostess (yes, I'm purposefully not using names) approached me to say that her friend recognized me, we had worked together.  I looked at him, but didn't recognize him.  He started to talk about where and when he worked, and I finally put the pieces together.  He was one of the jerks that had targeted me in the store.

I somehow managed to disguise my shock, and treated him decently, while he went on about his life, and asked me what I was up to.  He seemed to think that we liked each other, or that I had just forgotten the stuff that went on.

I didn't want to say anything.  I didn't want to put my friend (the hostess) in an awkward position, so I just let it go.  I left the party a few hours later (I refused to leave any earlier than I had planned) and was pretty pissed at that point.

So, is it wrong or immature to still feel this way?  Should I have said something, or wouldn't that have mattered?  Was I right to let it go, or should I have expected an apology that I wasn't going to get?

[Shakesthecoffecan]

I have had some similar experences, in that I recognize the feelings of unease you describe. In my experences these people usually have some unease on their part like they recognize me and remember their hormore induced behavior from a lifetime ago.

I know you did the right thing in being cordial to him and not confrontational. It would have brought bad karma to your friends party. Perhaps this is an indication you might run into him again if she has another get together. If that is the case, remember that it is the present you are living in and decide if you are going to let this guy know the person you are now or not. The person you always have been that he riticuled as well as the person you have become. Your life experence will be your guide.

We don't often know what motivates these people when they hate us. Sometimes it is fear of the unknown, sometimes the unknown in theirselves. I think we got to know what motivates us. I have a fantasy that I vist probably way too often in which I am at a class reunion and I take the microphone and forgive the class bully for his actions, but god help me if I were to ever do that. 

[loneleeb3]

I think you did the acceptable thing.
You thought of your friend and put her feelings above your own.
That said, you have every right to feel the way you did.
Im not as even keeled as you I would not have been plesant and probably would have let him know in no uncertain terms why.
But I think you did the right thing. i'm proud of you. Your a good man Charlie Brown!  

[Penthesilea]

(Chuck)

[Jeff Wrangler]

I think it's natural to continue to feel the way you do. Of course you shouldn't have expected an apology. You did the right thing--you were both guests under your hostess' roof, so you were right not to make an issue of the past. Sounds to me, though, that you let him take up more of your time than maybe I would have. I would have said, "Oh, nice to see you again," tried to avoid shaking hands--and almost immediately excused myself and pretended I needed to go to the bathroom. 

[Brokeback_Dev]

I think it's natural to continue to feel the way you do. Of course you shouldn't have expected an apology. You did the right thing--you were both guests under your hostess' roof, so you were right not to make an issue of the past. Sounds to me, though, that you let him take up more of your time than maybe I would have. I would have said, "Oh, nice to see you again," tried to avoid shaking hands--and almost immediately excused myself and pretended I needed to go to the bathroom. 

good answer